This friend is about to become my roommate, and I don't want to offend her, but I don't feel comfortable changing myself because of her religion.
2007-02-09 13:23:30 · 32 answers · asked by Benita 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It isn't about compromising your belief system it is about maturing, and respect. If you are going to college then this would be a good time to learn how to control your language. In the near future you will have a job that requires a certain amount of responsibility and that would include good verbal communications. A friend would hardly see this as any type of an obstacle if the friendship is something that you also value.
2007-02-09 13:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop cursing in front of them. It's rude and unnecessary no matter what your friend's religious beliefs are.
It's not like she's asking you to change your religion, she's just asking you to stop doing something that frankly gets REALLY annoying if you have to hear someone swearing all the time, some people (myself included) just really don't want to have to hear your negativity 24/7.
Besides, if you live in the real world you know there are plenty of places you can't swear, like a classroom or workplace. Avoiding swearing at home will help to keep you from slipping and swearing at times & places where it's REALLY inappropriate. (BTW, someone at my husband's job just got canned because he slipped and said the f-word in a company meeting. Bet he wishes that wasn't a habit for him now!) My advice is to grow up, get a more well-rounded vocabulary, and not make this about religion when there are plenty of other reasons for you to change.
2007-02-09 14:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Hamlette 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop cursing for goodness sakes, you don't want to change yourself, you would be bettering yourself. Become someone with a bit of class. Perhaps your roommate could set a great example for you and you could grow as a person. Or you could move into a trailer
2007-02-09 13:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by katie d 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This friend is not asking you to change your hair colour, or what you wear, or your sexuality. They are asking you to observe an accepted courtesy and curb your profanity while you are with them. It's called manners to watch what you say, and if you think about it, maybe it's a good thing to not curse at all. You might think you sound tough or something, but you're really disrespecting yourself and all those around you by mouthing off with profanity.
Respect your friend's wishes, and when something important to you comes up, they'll be more willing to respect your wishes.
2007-02-09 13:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by CheeseFest 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what a person believes. Cursing in any circumstance is just plain rude. I feel you should respect her wishes and try to stop cursing around her or anyone else. I'm assuming you are using God's name in vain. I'm also assuming you are not a believer. Why then would you call on God in the first place?
2007-02-09 13:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by VW 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
i am not sure that you two should live together if this major thing is in the way. Cursing is a part of growing up. You have to get there for yourself. You will get there when you are ready. So if you arent ready you might want to live with someone that is ok with it.
2007-02-13 05:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by meggie v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you respect her and her religion, and that is the only thing she is asking of you, you should do your best to go along. Otherwise, it could be a long, long time together, and you will not be friends for long. If that is too hard to do, you should both consider other roommates.
2007-02-09 13:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by Fred C 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If she's a close friend why would you want to offend her? Why do you cuss anyway? Cussing makes you appear to be without class and trashy. Also, it's offensive to many more than just your roommate to be.
2007-02-09 22:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by truckinmann 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nevermind the religion everyone has there moments of outbursts but it's just common courtesy to speak without cursing since you're point comes across better and you communicate a lot more efectively without it. not to mention cursing in public isnt exactly socially acceptable in society. i say grow with change.
2007-02-09 15:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by angryangel35 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Out of respect for my friend, as well as respect for their religious beliefs, I would stop cursing in front of them.
If you aren't willing to do something this easy for someone you say is your close friend, then perhaps you need to re-evaluate the words "close friend".
Good luck to you both.
2007-02-09 13:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by jmiller 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋