I have my mom's side of the family that hates me so much just because I act like my father. They don't like my dad because he has been to jail and lots more stuff they tell me to shut up and stop acting like him. Help me cause I really don't know how to deal with this on my own.
2007-02-09 13:18:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just be as you know is right. You only have you to answer to. You are not responsible for anything your father did. Someday after you make your mark on the world they will realize how responsible you really are.
2007-02-09 13:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by seblexie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your father and your family, and the fact that they tell you to shut up is just not a great thing at all. However, do you think perhaps that there might be a grain of truth behind what they say? Do you perhaps have an attitude, or mannerisms that are rude or deserving of correction? Maybe they know your potential and are worried that your attitude is indicative that you'll not reach it, but they just don't know a constructive way to help you? Examine yourself and be truthful, if after considering it, you feel like they are still out of line, then you need to distance yourself from them, because they are being cruel and unhelpful.
2007-02-09 21:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What they are doing to you is terrible, and they need to grow up. Just because you take after your dad with your mannerisms, doesn't mean you are your father. Anyways, they need to be set straight. I hope your mom doesn't join them in their ridiculous attitudes. If your Dad had to deal with in-laws like that, he's probably happier in jail. I would talk to your mom about this, she should be standing up for you...it's her responsibility to step in and set them straight. If she doesn't, or she is part of the problem, try to realize this type of thinking comes from ignorance. Your Dad is still your father no matter what mistakes he's made, and I'm sure he has good qualities too. Tell them that you are a unique individual, and that if you remind them of your Dad, than that is their problem not yours. Best of luck...
2007-02-09 21:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by explaining that you are part of your dad, you are not him and because of his mistakes you have learned a lot of what not to do with your life. You can forgive and so should they. He has at the least taught all of you valuable lessons. He got caught up in his whirlwind, I am sure he'd prefer not to have gotten caught up into in the first place, others do worse but never get caught. He may rehabilitate before it's all over. Tell them you need their support and don't be mad and do things that will hurt them or yourself. You have power, please read a book that fits you that will help you, talk to your school counselor or do as I do talk to God. I promise you, I promise you, you will be surprised. One more thing remember you have a slew of angels around you...
2007-02-12 16:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may need to try to change your ways some but next time they u r just like ur dad tell them yes I may look & sometimes act like him but I am not him & would appreciate it if u would quit trying to make me be him & help me not be him tell me what i do that is so bad u r willing to give up on me.then use their input to change your self if need be ,u no ur dad & u no ur self take a long hard look r u following dad to close think about it??? good luck
2007-02-09 22:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by slapjack458 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...sweetie.....be who you are...and if you are your daddy's girl...then so be it!!...they will have to deal with it...and you should tell them that.
2007-02-09 22:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by chillie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋