This is a really long story, but pretty much my boyfriend said I'm a good person but he needs some 'space' even though its a long distance relationship. We still talk occasionally online but it's really akward because it feels like he doesnt know what he even wants while I still like him. He also said he wanted to visit me for Valentines Day *AS FRIENDS*....first off who visits on THAT day as friends? A lot of my friends say maybe he just wants sex, and I am not ignorant to not think that, but the thing is he is 7 hours away, only has about 20 dollars right now, and HATES DRIVING...even when we dated he hated driving 4 hours. So if he doesn't want to be with me or so he says, why would he visit on VDay when it's such an inconvenience for him?
2007-02-09 13:18:03 · 9 answers · asked by Sarah 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also, sometimes it seems like I annoy him but sometimes he calls to say he misses me a lot so it makes me think he is very confused. He also has a lot of girls that like him so I know if it was just for sex he could just get it there if he wanted...I'm just so confused
2007-02-09 13:18:52 · update #1
It sounds like he is confused too. He is trying to hang on to something. Not sure what it is, but it doesnt sound like he feels like he made the right decision.
I would wait until he comes to visit and see how it goes. But, to me, it doesnt sound like a friendly visit. I know i wouldnt drive 7 hours to visit as a friend. I would have to really care about a man before i would do that. So, i think its safe to say that he still cares for you....ALOT!
So, play it limbo until he visits. See how things go. Sounds to me like a possible reconnection is gonna happen. I hope it does for you hun.
Good luck.
2007-02-09 13:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like what me and my significant other went through, he probably just has commitment issues, considering that he just wants a break, not to break up. Obviously he still cares enough to visit you with such an inconvenience on Vday so that says something. But if he asks for sex, then you need to set him straight, if he doesn't great. If it just happens then ask him the honest truth if that's what he planned on the whole time. You really need to sit down and talk with him, do it on Vday. Ask him just how he feels about you, if he thinks he can do better, ask him why he needs space if he's so far away. Maybe he's just stressing, overanxious, and nervous about getting attatched, if he won't admit it then you need to push for an answer. If he can't be honest with you then he's not worth it. Hope this helped and good luck.
2007-02-09 21:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by ellichan03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me when I say this,guard your heart, he may still have feelings, but the two of you need to figure out what is going on in your relationship, trust me, I totally get it...long story. Just be upfront, and honest, and tell him like it is. Maybe a visit so soon isn't such a good idea.
2007-02-09 21:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by blank_red_rose 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ive been in the same situation before..
Yeah he has his own life 7 hours away from you. and its proven that most guys HATE talking on the phone.. but he would NOT drive 7 hours to see you if he didnt feel somethign for you.. he could stay at home and spend time with some other chicks. so.. in conclusion.. theres MORE to his side.. but guys just dont come out like that... you cnat pry it out or its just going to scare him away.. call him less...sometimes dont pick up the phone when he calls and when you call him back 10 mins later say "sorry i was busy doing something" and if hes curious.. well. thats good.. but yes.. he definatly feels something for you... if he wants to drive 7 hours...
2007-02-09 21:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by ~Jamie K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all men are confussing...don't give up....maybe he changed a little and it's his way of tellin u that he wants you back...i would go for it and if it is just for sex then say NO and walk away cause it ain't worth it...hunni listen to me i just got outta a relationship he just wanted me when he felt like he needed lovin..i was like HIS "trophy" and NO girl is a trophy.....believe me...talk it over with him first though
2007-02-09 21:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by dont cry cause its over! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just a pathetic confusing idiot..dont waste ur time on this guy, he probably doesnt know what he wants..there r lotsa nice guys waiting for u out there ..life is short .just move on..
2007-02-09 21:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he really likes you to come that far.Keep your eyes open and see what happens---Good luck!!
2007-02-09 21:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds his credit cards bounced at local escort services
go see a doc
2007-02-09 21:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, what can i say...tell him that you won't be home...and you'll see!
2007-02-09 21:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by Spread the word! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋