Where do i go from here?

Question

I told my b/f i loved him and he told me he didn't love me back he just liked me alot. When he asked me to move in with him i guess i read into that as him loving me cause you don't ask someone to move in unless you are SERIOUS about them right? Where do i go from now? I am taking care of his apartment while he is in training for the usmc he said i put him in a predicament because he doesn't love me and i know that now i'm going to go mess up his house which i won't. He said he didn't what he wanted to do and that he would have to think about it and call me and tell me where we would go from there...He made me feel like i was nothing i've never had anyone make me feel like he did. I was in tears and i'm not one to cry. I know he's been under alot of stress with the training and everything But so have i. I have a 1 yr old daughter and i'm trying to take care of her and help him with his apartment. i told him i loved him and he lashed out at me...Where do i go from here?

I haven't moved in yet and He is not in training to go to war he is over there for some type of school. He asked me to move in before he found out about training. and i decided to wait cause i had things to straighten out and than we decided to wait til he came back.

Answer 1

wow what a jerk!!! and guys say WE are confusing!!! I usually find it that guys are more confusing than girls....why would he invite you to live with him if he thinks its funny that you love him..maybe he wanted you to stay for free so he knew his place was okay. what a jerk, I *KNOW* it's hard when you love someone and they don't love you, but if you stay it will just hurt you more. I would suggest going back to where you were before, good luck

Answer 2

Wow Hun! I've been there before. I was in the same situation as you! However I'm not quite sure what it is your asking.

I can tell you one thing though. When they are in training ESPECIALLY for the Marines, they are telling him alot of stuff that is heavy duty stuff. They are trying to get into his head. And they are. They don't like grunts with girlfriends because they won't fight as hard as they would without. But they don't tell them that. They just talk alot of sh*t. They are training them for worst case situations. Maybe he just CAN"T love you right now. Or at least the right way. Give him time. Don't mess up his house ( you said you wouldn't) Just give him time. Go out with your girlfriends. See the sights. He will fall through. He didn't ask you to move in for nothing. You are right where you are supposed to be.

Answer 3

Being with this guys puts you in a position that doesn't let you have the opportunity to meet a guy that will really treat you well.

I would go to your parents if possible, or with some good friends that will take you in, or rent a room with a nice family. Try a church that might help you if you don't have a family. Just don't overwelcome yourself.

This guy doesn't want you, all he wanted was to use you... (sex). I'm sorry.

Move out, and be happy.

Answer 4

Go out the door. Go anywhere you can. He should have never asked you to move in if it was going nowhere. If I were you I would not give him another thought. I would do what I thought was best for me and my child. He used you.And is just making things hard for your child. I would not wait for him to call me with an answer. When he calls if you are still there you should tell him how it is going to be . Forget the jerk. Don't let him use you any further.

Answer 5

what a shmuck!
if anything, get your feet under you
and when you are able, move out!
he is not what you need right now.
a loving, caring influence, for sure.
see if any of your girlfreinds need a roomate.
mebe move in with parents.. if that works for you.
just get away from this guy!

you have so many people to choose from!

and im sure you could find the perfect guy
for you and your daughter.

praying for you, hang in there!

Answer 6

Well he could be thinking that he is going to Iraq and that he really does not want to make you a widow or he could have just asked you to stay from a spure of the moment decision or to have someone watch his apartment. It is obvious that you have feelings for him that he does not return. I know what its like to have feelings for someone that does not love me and I know what its like to have someone that has feelings for me and I do not have those feelings for her.. it is a tough one but if you get another boyfriend then he might want you. sometimes men want what they cannot have. but remember that if you do that you cannot just dump the new guy. that would be as cruel as he is treating you. In short you are going to have to find a new home and get a new man. It is going to hurt like hell but you have to get on with your life. time will heal you girl. take care

Answer 7

On your own....sadly. We cant make people love us and it sounds like you might be in line for real heart break if you stick around. Go out on your own and find yourself and figure out what you want in your life and then move on. Im sorry but prolonging pain only does more damage to you and your feeling of self worth you are better than that and you desrve better settle for nothing less.

Answer 8

I guess it is all about you. He is in training, about to go off to war and has alot on his mind. The last thing he needs is your feel sorry for me crap

Answer 9

You've got a child to worry about...I'd head back to where I came from.

Answer 10

If you love someone, let them go, if they return, they are yours. if they don't, they never were! JUST LET HIM GO! HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU!!!!! THERE ARE PLENTY OF OTHER FISHES IN THE SEA! IT'LL TAKE AWHILE, BUT U'LL FIND THE RIGHT GUY FOR YOU! ALSO, THINK ABOUT UR DAUGHTER, DOES SHE THINK YOU DESERVE WHAT HE SAID TO YOU? WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU 2 GET MARRIED? WILL HE KEEP VERBALLY ABUSING YOU? WHAT WILL UR DAUGTER THINK OF THAT?