A friend of mine was planning to get married rather quickly last year--it was going to be the day after Thanksgiving. The wedding was a surprise, but her freinds were going, for the most part.
However, she was going to have the wedding in some town that was pretty far from the nearest city with the airport that most, if not all the out of state attendees were going to use. The only access to the town was by train, at least an hour each way.
Although people were welcome to stay at her home, a mutual friend of ours intended to stay at another friend's apartment in the big city for ease of getting to and from the airport. She told the soon-to-be bride that the bride was responsible for getting the guest to the wedding.
I was under the impression guests typically arrange their own means of travel. Granted, my friend made things rather inconvenient, but I don't think it would have cost all that much to get a taxi or rent a shuttle or something.
What is the etiquette in this situation?
2007-02-09 13:06:17 · 6 answers · asked by Bookworm 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The train also would not have dropped off the guests by the hall or the building where the wedding was going to take place--I think it was a good 20 minutes away or something. (The wedding didn't happen anyway...)
2007-02-09 13:13:14 · update #1
Since the wedding was announced so suddenly, the bride didn't think a lot of details through, ie how people would get out to the wedding. There was no discussion about convenience or cost since she was so caught up with everything.
2007-02-09 13:14:24 · update #2
For best etiquete, I'd say the bride & groom should make such arrangements. However, the couple have a lot to do when planning a wedding, and if guests want to be courteous, they should not complain about making their own arrangements.
That's a general statement that probably isn't applicable to the situation in your question. In your example, the couple should have been better prepared.
2007-02-09 13:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it is NOT the responsibility of the bride or groom to arrange travel for anyone. Yes they made it inconvenient to attend BUT no one has to attend. If it is too much of a hassle then people just simply send a small gift and say "will not be able to attend" or dont send anything if you are that annoyed with it being so inconvenient.
2007-02-09 15:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the transportation is the guest's responsibility. The bride chose to have her wedding in that place and it was her decision to make. The only way it would have been the bride and groom's responsibility was if it was already discussed (ie...the bride and groom's out of town relatives)
2007-02-10 04:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guests arrange their own means of travel, but the bride could help out a little bit with directions and websites to get transportation to and from.
2007-02-10 03:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless there was a discussion and agreement to the contrary, guests are expected to pay for and arrange for their own travel and accomodations
2007-02-09 13:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by kewtber 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The person attending should pay their own way.
2007-02-09 13:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by besitos2610 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋