I am the one who takes care of him all day while his father is at work,I play with him and give him hugs and kisses. I make him laugh and smile. But he only says dada, and when we tell him to say mama he says dada instead or laughs. When he sees his dad he smiles and is so happy and just wants to follow him around and wants his attention. Is this normal? I think he thinks his dad is more fun, he wrestles wiith him and I don't, could this be it?
2007-02-09 12:53:53 · 17 answers · asked by Red 7 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It really hurts my feelings, and makes me wonder what am i doing wrong? I yell sometimes but so does his dad.It really bothers me.
2007-02-09 12:56:06 · update #1
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
He doesn't love him more, he just misses him when he's gone all day. Trust me, he'll go through stages where he'll only want mommy too.
2007-02-09 12:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Remember that he is only 1 year old. Dada is probably easier for him to say, most start with that one. He sees you all day and in his mind knows he has your heart. Daddy is someone he does not see as much and needs his attention. It is very important that a Father takes an active role in his life. He will look to his dad and watch him, how your husband treats you, how he interacts in family life and deals with people. Your son will grow up and take what he has seen in his dad into his own life. Children need what a mother can give, but they need what a Father can give also. Enjoy your family.
2007-02-09 13:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by bobblehead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At a year old, children are learning to interact differently with different people. Mothers and Fathers nurture their children in different ways and your son is responding to that -- and the fact that every day when Dad comes home - it's a little like a new toy -- he becomes the baby's focus, because he's new.
Your son feels secure enough with you that he can divert his attention else where. And that's a good thing!
My son is 16 months and my suggestion to you is - relax and enjoy the freedom you have when your son's attention is focused on dad - for me, it can be the only time I can get work done around the house!
2007-02-09 13:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by teambarbie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing anything wrong Babies are just babies they don't pick and choose like adults. And Dada is a heck of a lot easier for them to say than Mama. And sometimes the more reaction you give them to something the better they think it is. So they do it more! Although I do remember at a certain age it seemed all my daughter wanted was daddy and come to find out she was feeding off of my stress...and daddies let them do things moms don't we tend to protect where daddies let them do and learn. It's just a phase.
2007-02-09 13:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Catherine A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son might be saying dada and think he is saying mama, also my wife takes care of and plays with our daughter all day while I am at work, but when I come home she clings to me till she goes to bed and sometime wants nothing to do with mom. My personal feeling is that your son like my daughter just miss dad all day and that is why sometimes want nothing to do with mom.
2007-02-09 13:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by fatherof2girlshaha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound and feel just like I do.My little girl is 4 yrs old and still does this and it bothers me alot.And to be honest with you I don't know what the reason is or how to stop it.The only thing I can think of is my kids dad gives her her way like Always and I am the one that has to be the parent so to say so she looks at it as I'm being mean to her.My hubby will give her her way instead of getting onto her or telling her no.Good Luck!
2007-02-09 15:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because its dad, whom he doesn't see too often. This is totally normal... sons are often close to their dad. Good for you for having a man who takes an active role in parenting. Da da is most often the first word that boys and girls say. It doesn't seem fair, but try to look at the positives instead.
2007-02-09 13:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well since his dad is at work, he doesn't get to see him very often so that might be why he is happy to see his father when he can and maybe he wants to expirement having a male figure around him, thats all...but remember ure still a needed and loved role in your son's life ^_^
2007-02-09 13:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Pretty Innocent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a boy.If he is one he has just figured out that he is a person and not a shadow of you.This is so normal to be funny that your upset.(sorry) But I can't beleive that your not thankful for a man that is there for you and plays with his son.You should be using this time(when he's playing with dad) to take some time for yourself.
2007-02-09 13:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by Rainy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe your son loves his daddy more than you. It is just a phase right now he'll grow out of it. It's normal and it's normal to feel that way.
2007-02-10 08:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋