why do the police and prison system have to do the jobs the parents of this country should have been doing?

Question

It used to be young men were given the choice to serve in the military and some grew up and were good citizen. Now because this is not done the young people end up dead,crippled, in prison or worse. Parents are setting their own children up for failure >>on visitind day i see a lot of tears and emotion...too late

Answer 1

Because all these so called "do gooders" made a big stink about corporal punishment in schools. And if you smack your kid in the mouth for calling you filthy names, you get charged with child abuse. That's why. It's impossible to dicipline your child anymore. Now, let me just say that there is a huge difference between dicipline and child abuse. A swift kick in the butt never hurt me and any of my friends when we were growing up and we would have never thought of trying to pull some of the crap these kids are getting away with now a days.

Answer 2

probably because parents are getting younger and younger.
Also because quite a few of these young parents should not have been parents.

I would venture to say (no stats to back me up here ) that the majority of the people that you see in the visitiation room come from one class of people (not black or white, just a lower socio economic class).

This class of people have a harder time in society because the morals of society as a whole are not reflected to the degree that they are in the larger society.

Meaning, go to any trailer or any ghetto.
Do an unscientific survey and ask how many of them know over ten people who 1. use crack or oxicotin, have a record or arrest for an assault, have a dui etc.

When you go into a middle class community and ask these same questions the reply is decidely different.
Meaning that if you get into a dispute as a grown man with someone over a parking space, your first inclination would not be to shoot that person or fight with them. However if you live someplace where that is acceptable (and effective) you might be MORE inclined to do this too.

Most teenage parents (sure there are some) lack the skills to be effective parents.
Most teenagers that have children are less well off financially then parents who have kids later in life
so the more money you have the better chance that you can expose your child to better experiences externally.
(he can go out and ride his bike without stepping over crack needles, seeing the police beat someone etc)

I would guess that alot of the tears you see from parents are tears of guilt.
It was cute when 'little johnny missed 180 days of school to nurse yoru hangover'.
YOu are proud when you found out that your son was a hustler.
when your son was killing cats, it was the cats fault for scratching him etc.

IMO

Answer 3

First of all they should be able to say the words condoms and birth control in the high school health class and teach teens about prevention and if they did not want to deal with kids so often in court then they should allow us to spank our kids, Now I could see if the kids were missing a-lot of school because they are "sick" then they should follow up and make sure that the child is not being mistreated, they should also explain to kids that a spanking is 3 to 4 times on the butt or hand but if your parent or parents slap you in the head or arms or legs then it is not a spanking that is abuse so it is more then just one or two factors,
not only that but single parents do have it a little bit harder, but how can you point the finger in just one direction

Answer 4

That is a good question and I know police along with the justice system are sick of dealing with kids who come across their path. My thoughts are that rights for parents have been taken away and parenting has gradually moved into the eye of the government.

Kids rule the roost. They are actually taught in school who to call if they feel they are being mistreated. When the rights of parents are taken away, then the government needs to accept responsibility for the monsters they have created.

Answer 5

Got to agree with you here to be honest, BUT dont you also think that often for some of the kids it becomes a cycle for them, unwed mothers going on to have more unwed mothers, etc etc NOT knocking them at all [was one my self] BUT the society bar was set so low that even my dog can abide within what was expected.............so each day I raised it and made them get over it, our motto was FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION............seems to have worked so far................

Far more effort should be aimed towards raising the bar and what is expected of our young people and for them to realise that EARNING a reward is far better than having it handed to you.

Answer 6

in this day and age, parents want to be their childrens best friend and thats a difficult thing to do when you want to parent them. when i watch the show Super Nanny, i want to spank those kids til no end, there is no way i could ever hit or even say shut up to my mother and live. parents have lost their authority and it will have its consequences as their children get older. another example is the fact that parents dont even kno what their children are doin in school, and are afraid to ask! if they did, their children wouldnt fail their classes, be bullied, engage in drugs/sex, and potentially harm fellow students with school shootings.

Answer 7

i agree that parents need ot do a better job and possibly the cause of everything is the lack of discpline and Godly living.

Answer 8

parent s do not know what 2 do when it comes 2 their own kids