I have a brilliant man who knows me better than i know myself inside and out, but lately i have found myself locked within the jaws of potential infidelity, recently i find myself falling gradually for another man who is charming, and who's words quench a thirst in me that needs satisfying....you don't have to tell me it's wrong i already know, but i have no control over this, and feel dishonest with my man what can i do when i'm falling helplessly?
2007-02-09 12:32:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Follow your heart!!!!! Though I have experienced the same and left the relationship. My heart told me. We were together for less than 6 months. Wanted to go back but I was too late. Again dating someone else. Yes I do think of how I was treated. Though honestly can say I probably would have sucked and bled everything out of the relationship. Remember all relationships take 2. So it is not 50/50.... it is 100/100. Usually when the other is worshiping the ground you walk on we tend to abuse. No not intentionally. My feelings. Always follow your heart. Time we spend wondering and not chasing our dreams is all lost. You are never wrong when it comes to your feelings. Hope this is some insight????? If you do leave. Please be good there heart. Though do not drag along. Let go. K
2007-02-09 12:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Decide first if you are willing to lose what you have. If not, know that any man who disrespects you in such a way as to tempt you from your commitment to the relationship you have is not necessarily going to remain committed to you in the end. He'll be off trying to get another girl who is attached to someone else as soon as he's got you pegged. Help yourself and make a decision before its made for you.
2007-02-09 20:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mangomum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have control... you simply choose to use that as an excuse.
YOU make your own choices and it sounds to me like you're definately making a pretty bad one.
You are right for feeling dishonest because you ARE.
I call it like I see it.... Grow Up and RESPECT your relationship or cut this brilliant man loose so he can be with a brilliant and respectable woman who will truly love him.
2007-02-09 20:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man may be picking up the "vibes" on this. May or may not know what all it's about, but knows something. Suggestion: please ask your man for a time for the two of you to sit down and talk. If you really still care for him, definitely let him know this. Then tell him you are lacking something in your relationship with him that someone else is trying to fill, or is willing to fill. Hopefully he will understand, and be willing to fill in that something that is lacking in your relationship to keep it going. If he feels for you as much as you do for him, he will work on it. Take care.
2007-02-09 20:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though there's something missing in your relationship with "Brilliant". Talk it out with him. If he loves you and you him, you should be able to work things out.
In the mean time, put some space between you and "Charming", especially if you do'nt want to hurt "Brilliant". Don't go anywhere/do anything with Charming until things are settled with Brilliant
2007-02-09 20:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your current relationship and you have no control over yourself in the presence of the other man, you need to devise a way of not seeing him and not being in his presence. If you work with him, that could be quite difficult, but it sounds like you're not going to be able to be around him and remain faithful to your current relationship.
2007-02-09 20:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by ♫ frosty ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other guy makes you laugh, makes you feel good. It's your decision, right? A man who knows you, or a man who makes feel good, and that could get to know you. Do what you feel is right.
2007-02-09 20:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by Why Is The Rum Always Gone? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a vacation
a small one
to the mall or the spa
spend a day without thinking about it
your mind will be clear the next day
2007-02-09 20:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by sparkles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where you are in the first relationship, but basically you need to decide who you want to be with. Choose one and reject the other altogether.
2007-02-09 20:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by cy ko tic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to a choice. I hope you make the right one.
2007-02-09 20:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Fish <>< 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋