Please help with a lying boyfriend?

Question

I really think my boyfriend is lieing to me, He promised me that he will go out to lunch with me and my mom, and I told him I was paying , then I called him , and he told me that he had to make a stupid delivery for his work, , when I get my hopes up, then he always breaks them, I just dont know , if he's telling the truth, then he said he'll call me , after work, and we'll do something , and he told me he loved me, Sometimes I want to belive him, but I dont know when he lies to me, what is wrong with me,I think he is cheating on me, he saids , he want's to get married and have kids, how can I trust him, What is wrong with me, I'm a kind careing , loveing person, I have a big heart, why do I always end up with a guy I think loves me, then he lies and cheat on me, If he is cheating on me , this will be the 10 time a guy does this to me, why do all guys cheat, how can I find out if he's really cheating on me, I already told him, if he's cheating on me, he should dump me, but he said no

He says he loves me, and he doesn't want to hurt me.

Answer 1

It sounds to me you are very insecure because of past relationships, i have been there i know how you feel. But you have to trust your boyfriend it may be hard but if you cant trust him and relationship you have will never last and it is doomed to fail.
Has he given you any reason to doubt his truthfulness or is this pretty much in your head (with out being mean)?
As i said i know how it can be, I was with an ex-boyfriend for three years and found out he was cheating on me with his ex it really hurt me and destroyed my confidence in men. And the relationship i had after that i immediately didn't trust them and would check up on them constantly and every time he wouldn't come through for me and broke planes my imagination would run wide with reasons why he were ditching. In the end all you do is upset your self and drive them away.
If he said he had something for work the chances are he did and if he said he would call and didn't he sounds like nearly every other man in the world.
You got to try to to be more trusting and less clingy.
Trust me, your relationship is never going to work if you don't trust him and you'll never be happy

Answer 2

Well unfortunately your not the first or the last female to get lied to or hurt by a man. If you feel it in your gut then you are most likely right that he is cheating or something else. The good thing is that you have to know that you deserve better and that he doesn't deserve you, or your love. Also a man told me once that it is good if a man comes into your life and then leaves because you are suppose to learn from that experience and it prepares you for the person that you will become and the man you will be with. Hope this helps

Answer 3

Ok. You sound like a really nice person, so if your boyfriend is cheating, I have no idea why. But there are two possibilites here:
1) He isn't cheating or lying to you.
2) He is, and he doesn't want to break up or hurt your feelings. In that case, news flash for him, he already did hurt you by lying to you. If he is cheating, he's not worth anything. Just try to remember that you ARE, even if you have a history of dating lame guys.

Answer 4

Go with your instincts - a woman's greatest friend is her instinct. If you don't trust him for heaven's sake don't marry him. Men take advantage of you because you let them. Be honest with him, tell him how you feel. Then be honest with yourself and see that you'll never accept half a commitment. Neither will I, I waited a long time to find a man I could trust in all major ways. My advice is dump this one and keep looking, there are an awful lot of men out there and looking can be a lot more fun than arguing with a man you know in your heart is not right for you.

Answer 5

To help determine if your boy friend is cheating on you there is one clever technique you can use to tell if he is lieing when you ask him questions, and this works when questioning any one about anything. When you ask him a question look for a double eye blink when he answers. If you see a clear double eye blink then he is definitely lieing. If you don't see an obvious double eye blink then he very likely telling the truth. Keep this technique a secret because if you tell him he will know to avoid the double eye blink in future.

I discovered this on a television documentary programme once. It was about the serial killer Harold Shipman. They discussed this technique of lie detection and it showed up during an early TV interview with him during the the making of another documentary about the health service years before he was found out to be a killer.

So this technique does work but keep it to your self. Take care and all the best.

Answer 6

he might not be.
how terrible for u.
u have my deepest sympathy.
if u become too suspicious and paranoid u may well drive him away.
u will have to trust him until u have absolute proof otherwise.
i can understand him not wanting to go out with u and ur mom tho as a lot of blokes would be shy on this one.
you possibly need to say to him...... look, if u r cheating on me
u will probably mess me up for the rest of my life. It would be a lot kinder if u r, for us to go our separate ways.
see what he says and check his response but remember
a guy is innocent until otherwise proved and there are a whole load who would NOT do this.
for the future, try to concentrate on making urself irresistible to a guy so he doesn't want to cheat!
this could mean dropping the question of cheating altogether.

Answer 7

I think liars are liars for ever. I had a lieing gf once, every time she lied she couldn't look me in the face. She would look anywhere but in my eyes. she also figgeted and sweated. Some liars are hard to spot, but trust your gut. Don't stay with him if you think he is lying, because he probably is. I don't think they change, they just think of ways to try and be better at it. But don't waste your time with a liar, move on, you deserve better.

Answer 8

if it is showing up as a pattern you need to look at what you are doing.

you are either going for the wrong type of guy
you are being to bitchy and naggy and high expectation high maintenance or high demand in the relationship
or
your are not being openly communicative enough, there is nothing worse than not being able to speak your feelings and get back direct answers. Tell him upfront, it hurst me, i need to know i can depend on you, why does this happen. then get an answer, and learn from it if it means you need to change

if you cant trusthim now, you cant trust him later

Answer 9

You just have to trust him because if you don`t then you don`t have much of a relationship and he will just get annoyed that you don`t trust him and maybe end up doing it as you think he is anyway and always on at him so he might as well be guilty of it.

Answer 10

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