my mum is constantly on my back about when am i going to have a baby. i'm only 19! she knows that i had an abortion just over a year ago and i just don't know the right way to tell her that its too soon for me to just pop out a baby. what can i say to her that won't upset her?
2007-02-09 12:16:59 · 13 answers · asked by jess o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you aren't ready just tell her you don't want to have a kid right now. You have your whole life to have a baby, a couple of years isn't going to make a big difference.
2007-02-09 12:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Yay me!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, how about mom? Having a child is a huge responsibility and I need to be financially prepared as well as emotionally and mentally ready to put my 100% all into it. I may look grown up, but I AM only 19, a year ago I was in school, still LEARNING things.
I'm not even old enough to buy liquor yet, I have my whole life ahead of me, I need a career in place before I take on being responsible for another person, etc.
There are a million reasons why you shouldn't just because someone else has a vision in there head of how great it would be. All good things in life are worth the wait, so tell her she'll make a fabulous grandmother when the time comes, and it will be all the more special because it was something she is looking forward to.
But in the meantime mom focus on continuing raising and spending time with your own baby girl, who is growing up, but will still need you.
2007-02-09 12:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by nymom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you arent ready for a baby. Tell her that you have a good 30 years to have a baby. Now you want to focus on being 19 and you aren't ready to have all the resopnsibilty of a child/
2007-02-09 12:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
say
"fine i'll go get drunk, screw some random guy who's name i don't know and don't love, get knoked up, and cause im not ready for the whole mother thing, you can change the babies nappies, wake up at 3am in the morning to feed the baby,try figure out why the hell it wont stop screaming and the milking part won't be a problem you can just buy some formulae from the stores or i'll use a breast pump and stor bottles in the fridge for you, while im away enjoying my life and doing what any normal 19 year old does, have fun, study and pursue their dreams.
don't you like my plan? i thought you were the one who wanted me to have a baby? don't expect me to stick around, i already told you im not ready. glad we had this conversation, cause if you think about it it's a win-win situation"
say this, and she'll get the reality check she needs!after all it's the truth aint it?!
good luck, and be brave!!!!!!
2007-02-09 20:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Milly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her listen I am just too young to have a baby. I don't think there is a way to tell her this without upsetting her. You need to sit down with her and find out why she wants you to have a baby so badly. It sounds a little odd to me.. My mother and I haven't had the best of relationships but she would never want me to do something that I didn't want to do. Who knows maybe if you sit down and talk it out things won't get upsetting or end up in an arguement..... good luck and don't back down for what you believe in. believe in you
2007-02-09 12:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by miseryluvscompany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to live her own life. Be honest, sometimes you have to hurt someones feelings before they get the picture. She's your mum she'll understand. Say your young, like to party and cant do that with a baby, because your responsible. You'll be ready when your ready and not before.
2007-02-09 12:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that when the time is right, that's a decision you will make on your own. You understand that she is eager to be a grandmother, but it is your life, and motherhood is quite a big undertaking and you need to well prepared. You are the one that will be responsible to raise the child and you shouldn't do it just so she won't be mad. Even if she does get mad, when the time comes and you are expecting, she'll be overjoyed!
2007-02-09 13:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom is INSANE...and obviously not well educated (I am sorry and don't mean to insult her or you). But, in any case...there is no need for you to talk to your mom at all about it. Just be smart and don't have one until you are ready to (oh let's say in five to ten years). If I told you to start smoking pot, would you do it and would you feel you had to convince me its wrong. No you would just ignore me. Sorry, but use that same logic with your mom. In the future...don't make mistakes due to other people...make up your mind yourself and follow your own instincts!~
2007-02-09 12:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by immune01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first tell her you are not married yet(I assume this) Then ask her if she is going to support and raise the child. Then tell her you want the best loving home you can give a child which is a daddy and a mama that love it and will care, protect it and support it.
Also compare for her the way she raised you to what you want for any babies you will have. and death is not one of them
2007-02-09 12:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her when you are ready to have a baby she will be the first one to know.
2007-02-12 12:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋