Lately, I've been feeling like I just want to get away by myself somewhere without my child and without my husband. I have even cried. I just want some time alone to think and relax. I don't get that often because everyday I get up, I tend to my child, I clean, I cook and when my husband gets home I have to deal with him. Some days he's not in a good mood when he gets home. He does show affection towards me at times, and I do love him, but I'm tired and worn out. My husband is in the Navy, and he just got back from a six month deployment a few months ago. Now, he tells me that he will be going to Cuba for six months in April. I will be left alone again with our child. Our son is 16 months old and he has a temper, and I'm feeling mostly frustrated with him. At times I think he must hate me because I take things from him that he shouldn't have. Today I took him to daycare for a break, and later I wished he could've stayed there. I feel like I'm at my wits end. What should I do?
2007-02-09 12:10:09 · 9 answers · asked by April Z 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Take a break, get away for yourself, i would if i could, but we are only as good as we feel, so if your feeling that you need a break i would get away before it builds up for so long that you go crazy and take it out on someone you don't want to. Try going to the spa get a massage, and get your hair done if you really can't go anywhere!
2007-02-09 12:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Novak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not silly at all-we all go though this. And let me say that your mom felt this too I bet. The first time I told my mom I just wanted to run off for a day to get some me time that wasn't spent at work, cooking, cleaning, or picking up after someone she laughed and said "I wondered how long that would take". All mom's think this at some time. If they say they never do, they lie ;-) Tell your hubby that you think he needs to spend time with your child and you must get a little break before the next deployment. Take a night and go to a nice hotel and spend the night. A dinner with out interuption, sleep in, a relaxed bath. If you can't afford the hotel-ask a girlfriend to let you visit for a night or to join you at a hotel and split the cost (catch up on girl talk). We all have to recharge-none of us are superwoman. You can't be "on" 24/7 for your child and hubby and still have any time and energy for you. You will be a better mom and wife if you take care of yourself too! Good luck and feel better soon!
2007-02-09 21:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by VAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definately not silly for feeling this way. I would feel that way too. And in fact I have before. a few months ago, I babysat a 1 year old for 5 days in a row. And after the 1st couple of days were okay. But then I started to feel tired and I kind of wanted a break from this kid. I loved him so much, but it was little hard to find something for him to do. Someone told me to relax while he was taking a nap. And it worked. Just try to find time for yourself. And if you can't find time, make time. You would probably feel better if you made time to relax than feel stressed all the time.
2007-02-09 20:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by KU! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally understand. I have 3 kids, a five year old and 14 month old twins. I get this way sometimes and have to go my Dad's or somewhere just to have someone else to talk to and have some adult interaction. It can cause severe problems if you let this get too far. I would hire a babysitter for the entire day. Get a pedicure, watch a movie, go shopping or something. It will rejuvenate you. I am going on a vacation by myself in July and I CANNOT WAIT!!!!
Maybe you should try that, if you can.
If nothing else works, talk to your husband and when he is home, take a weekend for yourself.
Good Luck.
2007-02-09 20:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a break. All mothers get this way so don't feel guilty. If you aren't feeling at your best you can't be the best mother you want to be. Please tell your husband how you feel. See if he will take your son for a day out while you relax at home. He needs to spend time with him now before he is shipped out again.
Or go to a hotel for a night or two. Sleep, watch TV and eat what you want. Perhaps you could get a friend to go with you?
2007-02-09 20:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 kids and the youngest slept over grandma's a couple of weeks ago. horrible to say, but I didn't totally miss her. I got the whole house clean, and it was quiet and orderly. My older ones even said how nice it was to go to the store without her.
Well a few nights later I had a horrible nightmare when I was in a office building with a fire and a tornado and I could not find my little one anywhere. I woke up promising to always miss her.
But you aren't alone at all.
2007-02-09 20:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Marge Simpson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every mother feels that way one way or another, its normal. what you need to do . is take him to daycare more often so that you can pamper yourself once in a while. if he is napping take a bath and soak for a while, relax. everything will be fine, and your child know s that you love him. and when your husband is home talk to him, and tell him how you feel. and be honest good luck.
2007-02-09 20:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must get in to a support group, there are lots of woman in your situation, it is so very very hard, look into it , have your hubby investigate what the navy offers, you should look into groups in local newspaper, YMCA, church, or rec center, you have to find a place to air out what you are feeling or you will not be able to positive parent, maybe there is a way you can live close to family when he is gone
2007-02-09 20:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a part time job it will be time away from your son and also you will make money and he can interact with other kids
2007-02-09 20:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋