why do pARENTS SPANK KIDS, REALLY?

Answer 1

parents spank their kids as they love them alot and always want them to be good and that they should have a good reputation in front of other childern and parents..

Answer 2

Theres a big difference between spanking and beating your kids...I dont agree with spanking but I dont disagree either. I think that sometimes it just gets to the point where something drastic is needed for your child to remember that what they did was not acceptable. This subject is so confusing, i guess i just see kids today and they are so different than we were as kids, many have no respect and have no discipline..........i dont know if spanking is the answer..........but something has to be done

Answer 3

I would say it is because you want to show them positive reinforcement like a treat and negative reinforcement like a pat on the butt. The reason people do negative reinforcement is to show children that by being good you will be rewarded and being bad you will be punished. I was spanked as a child and I feel that it was good for me, my father did not beat me, I never felt that he needed to be hauled away to prison or anything. I did bad things as a child and needed to be taught a lesson because reasoning with children isn't going to do anything, children sometimes do not have the capacity to understand what it is they did wrong and by giving them that fear if they do naughty things they will be dealt with in a stern matter. But sometimes parents take the spanking out of control, they will spank their kids to the point they are beating them and that is where spanking gets the bad vibes.

Answer 4

Usually because they are already upset about something else, then when their child does one tiny thing wrong, or even just aggravates them a little, they fly off the handle with their kids. At least that was the case for me. I used to spank my kids for every little thing, but mainly because I was having a bad day. I hardly spank them anymore, because there are so many better ways to discipline kids. Yes, somethings, if they are major, warrant a spanking, but not most things. I have learned that I need to let the punishment fit the crime.

Answer 5

I really dont think spanking helps at all my bro sometimes got spanked and hes still naughty and rude! so I think parents just spank there kids to punish them i really dont know.

Answer 6

Parents need to create consequences that small children can understand. We set up their own little world, as they get older, and closer to adulthood, spankings should no longer be needed.

It's like we are the government, our children are the citizens. Just like society, if you break a rule you get punished! So for us as a substitute for grown up punishments, we use spanking. It's something children can understand that's bad. They learn quickly, and don't repeat things.

Answer 7

The only time I spank my child is when he's doing something that will hurt him physically. He's 17 months old, and most people look down on spankings, but I only tap him on his diaper and let him know it will hurt him. It's the only way I've found to teach him what he can't touch!

Answer 8

because it's to show them what they have done is wrong. remember there is a BIG diff in spanking and beating, a pat on the butt is a spanking, balling your fist and hitting is beating. beating is WRONG in my book, but a simple spank and a "no no" should suffice. usually it's at an age where they don't understand if you explain to them what they did is wrong, i think after they attain an understanding of words and language enough for you to explain to them what they did was wrong, and why it was wrong then it's time to stop spanking. that's the time to start the grounding and "time outs".

Answer 9

because sometime everything like time out just doesn't seem to work.
I guess if your just spanking them for something they did wrong then it's ok but if you have no reason to do it then that's not a good thing. So there's a time to do it and there's a time not to do it.

Answer 10

Because some parents lack the patience to spend time teaching their kids what they did wrong. Instead they just use the "quick fix." Spanking does not teach the child, it only threatens them. A parent's role is to teach their children, and spanking does not fill their role in the long term.

Answer 11

Because in certain circumstances it is the best way of helping a child associate their misbehaviour wtih unpleasant results so that they will not do it again. For example I regularly smack my 9 month old baby's hand when he touches something dangerous like the oven or an outlet. These things are baby proofed but he still needs to learn not to touch them because the world as a whole is NOT baby proofed, i.e. grandma's house.