how do you cope when they are away?
my boyfriend is going away to iraq for the first time in our relationship and im so scared.
and im gonnamiss him so much
2007-02-09 11:56:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I am in the Royal Air Force, but get yourself mixed into the local camp scene - others there will be able to support and help if you need it.
Religious? don't worry - make an appointment to see your Air Force Padre - he/she can be of a great help too.
Write blueys (aerogrammes) regularly - while i was away they are a great comfort and morale boost for your man. Try not to get too depressed sounding in them either.
Family nearby? Go and see them regularly. Make peace with whoever you don't get along with.
TOTALLY on your own? Get off to night school and get a art/music/GCSE/car maintenance/DIY/French etc course sorted and done as it keeps you occupied and gives you a new circle to mix in (and make friends).
Most of all love your man / woman and assure them of your love and respect for them, await their arrival home - most come home OK - and you will be OK too.
love and respect to you and your man (i presume)
Fellow Royal Air Force !
2007-02-10 00:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by confused 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relatinship with someone who was in the Army, and during the time that we were together, he also went to Iraq.
I was so scared to even pick up a newpaper, but I really think tha if this is the guy for you then your relationship will see it through.
Just think that many peopl ebefpre you have done it, and many people after you will do it.
Another thing which I think is really important is for you to remember that it IS much more difficlut for him.
He wont be seeing anyone outside the army who he can sit back and have a laugh with, but he will have all the worries that while you are at home your life will not have changed so much. (Even though I know that it has.)
And with thinking about this try to make it as easy as possible for him- we can only imagine how great it must feel to get letters when you are so far awy from friends and family and a culture that you know.
The way I got through it was to try and think about how at that point it was my turn to support him, and make things easier, if that was possible. Army guys all think that they are the macho ones, but they like to hear that they are missed just as much as we do!
It is a test in your relationship adn if you are really serious abou tit you will come out the other end.
2007-02-09 12:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by lj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry !!
Ive just finished my 4th Tour,and my Wife is so used to me going away now
She says it only feels like ive been gone for a couple of weeks.
I know she worries,but we have access to the internet and phones,but remember a letter is always the best thing for US SOLDIERS of HM FORCES to receive
Tell him from me that we are a big family out there
Good luck with your short seperation,Hell be back soon
2007-02-09 17:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband is in the army and he has been to the leb twice but thank god it was before he met me i dont know how id cope it would be very hard i would be heartbroken but if he wanted to go i wouldnt say no as its part of his job thank god ive good family and friends that would help me but 6 months is a very long time but dont worry he will be fine he will come home to you you can write everyday and keep busy if you dont have children you could take up a night course or something that would help pass the time ive no really good advice but look after yourself take care chin up
2007-02-09 12:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by smiley 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my husband is in Iraq , he has been there for 7 months and wont get back til June. and then possibly going right back when he gets back to our post in june.....It is hard and scary.Very stressful and you dont hear from them as much as you want too.
2007-02-09 14:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by cherokee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it!
most RAF are R.E.M.F's
Army translation = rear eshalon muda Fruka's
He will be ok!
Believe
2007-02-09 14:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Chris W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
uh actually RAF is the shortened version of Royal Air Force.
and in the US, its USAF for US Air Force, though it should be "Godly Mighty Air Force"
after all we are the most powerful air force in the world.
2007-02-09 12:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by PROUD TO BE A LIBERAL TEEN! 4 · 0⤊ 6⤋
It is not the raf it is the Royal Air Force.
2007-02-09 12:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by poppy vox 4 · 5⤊ 7⤋