How do you free your mind from negativity ?

Question

I work a job where I have to tolerage negative and abusive people all day, and I need to find a way to combat that with positive energy. I find that if I'm not careful, I begin to get negative too, and then I'm acting like a jerk to my family. Can someone suggest something I can do.

Answer 1

I found that what helped me was three different things:
1. In the morning, while showering try to think of at least 5 positive things about my job . . . (maybe you really dislike your customers, but you have a good boss, or whatever)
2. I found it best to take my lunches alone. . . (coworkers often take their lunches together and gossip or complain about work)
3. On the commute home, I would remind myself that work is done, family time is on. I allowed myself whatever I needed to relax (playing relaxing Cd's instead of popular ones or radio, stopping for a Star buck's to sip on rough days, and no cell phone)
Hope this helps

Answer 2

By flooding it with positivity to the extent that there is no room for negativity. Read Dr. Burns' book, "The Feeling Good Handbook" and you'll see what I mean. It made a huge difference in my life. I was at the brink of suicidal depression when I was introduced to this book. Now I handle all sorts of crap with ease.

Wow, two plugs for the same book. Must be something to it.

Answer 3

Ditto from Nicole & Squirrel.

Meditation, breathing exercises, maybe even yoga or Tai Chi. That's what I do.

Positive imagery and thought really makes a difference. You'll be surrounded by positive energy, and it does affect those around you.

And thank you for being honest and mindful of what you are doing to your family. You're willing to correct the problem, and that's the first step in fixing it.

Answer 4

BY LITTERALY WILLING YOURSELF TO THINK POSITIVE! Negative thinking and negative perceptions both result in a down feeling, sadness and if continued, to depression. This emotion by itself is an evolved signal to change course as something you perceive is not good for your well being. If this signal is not obeyed the sad feeling results in further negative thinking and that in turn leads to more sadness... etc. This cycle of negativity has to be broken up by actually willing yourself to think and do positve things.

The most positive thing you could do is change jobs if that is possible.That sounds like a terrible workplace. "No man is an island." We depend on one another to give us our needed evidence for continued existence. That is gotten by our interaction, via words and deeds, with those others. When that fails to be perceived as positive we naturally turn negative and inward and defend ourselves from disapproval.

Deeds are more powerful than words but words are the first approach. When someone says something critical or abusive instead of "lashing out" with an unkind rejoinder just think, "I forgive you" and do or say something kind or happy. It is important to forget the abuse and will your mind to think positive about them. You need to think kindly in order to feel kindly. What can you DO in a workplace? Bring them a cup of coffee at coffee break! If all else fails to come to mind just hand them a stick of gum when they cut you down along with a cheery word.

And don't just react when criticised, go out of your way to do something kind to others when they least expect it or to another after he or she has been "put down". You'll soon find you get a reputation of being a "good joe". Hopefully that will prompt others to want to act and feel as happy as you seem to be.

Good luck, God Bless, Peace and Love!!

Answer 5

Ok Im going through this myself heres what I do..
-Meditate throughout the day(if this sounds crazy its just putting yourself in a quiet state of mind and thinking about positive things you like or have experienced)
-make a list daily of things you are happy about in life
-Release your stress by keeping a stress log when things get chaotic remove yourself and log it or create a time to "stress out"
-find someone you like to takl to,you will realize how much better you feel.Its not about anger its about controling your reactions
Good Luck
ohh try this book its awsome
Feeling Good handbook by Dr Burns

Answer 6

Just play a video game and calm down.
Be careful, not to Sleep !