Ok me and dis boy have been goin out for 8 mons we broke up on sat, now i miss him so much he was my everything i wanna call him but i am scared to even talk let me give ya more details..... ok we started datin in may 06 we broke up once before in july cause i cheated we got back togetheron my 16 b-day in oct 06 , was still friends but he had a gurl and i had a man, then we got back together after that he started sayin i love you then he told me i'll neva hurt you i totally believe him he lef me heart broken i want to call him but i am scared cause he might not wanna talk to me, i am so emotional over this he was the love of my life oh yea last sat. we went to a skatein rink and he would talk to me then hew started flritin wit my 13 yr old cuzin.. if you can help me out please let me kno ples!!! should i call him or should i just leave him alone!!! ples i really need yo advice !gracias!
2007-02-09 11:44:38 · 16 answers · asked by Proud Mommy 2 Cameron♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh yea he told me we would always be friends but i want to be more than friends and i am 7mos. pregnant wit his baby. he is goin to take care of the baby so that i am not worried about!!!!please help a gurl out!!!no es amor!!!please help me!!!!
2007-02-09 12:10:10 · update #1
One thing you should know about guys, is that they tend to break up just before V-Day to avoid presents. If he really wants to be with you, he'll probably call you after V-Day. Guys can be jerks like that. If I were you, I would not call him. And aside from a casual hello if you see him, avoid contact. Play it cool, like everything is ok. Try not let him know your upset. Your young, and I know you may really believe he's the love of your life, but you still have alot of living to do. Go out, have fun with your friends, and try not to think about it. If it's meant to be, he will come back to you, after V-Day of course.
OK, editing my answer now. The pregnancy thing changes everything. You definently need to have communication with this guy. I know this may not be something you want to hear, but I have to be real with you. Don't think that he will stay with you just because your pregnant. Especially with him being so young. Not to say he won't try to help you with the baby. Just saying that a baby does not guarentee a relationship. If he doesn't come around, don't obsess with trying to make him your man. You'll be a mommy soon and your focus will need to be on what's best for your baby, not what's best for your heart. You will probably always have some type of feeling for the father of your child, but if he wants to be just friends, let it be. As long as he takes care of his responsibilities. If your still determined to get him back, see above advice, and read the book below for more advice. I wish you and your unborn the best of luck.
2007-02-09 12:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by My_Amira_Will 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, one step at a time here...first, get a dictionary so you can check your spelling, Next, realize that you are 16! The love of your life is not going to come around for awhile. Anyone that you would cheat on is NOT the love fo your life. Anyone who would tell you he loves and fool around with you while he is dating someone else is not the love of your life. In fact, it sounds like he doesn't really respect you or other girls he dates. Remember this: its called a break up because its BROKEN. If someone breaks up with the other person, its because they realized this and decided the relationship couldn't be fixed. He's not wasting his time on you, so stop wasting your time on him. And get the book called "Its Called a Break up Because its Broken" It really helped me get through my last break up.
Last but not least, do not date guys who flirt with 13 year old girls, related to you or not. Thast just creepy.
2007-02-09 11:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by LL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.....Look girl, hes got you wrapped around his little finger. Every time he does something he knows is wrong you just get a lil mad and keep right on datin him. DONT do that! You gotta tell him when enuf is enuf! Look, next time you catch him doing something like datin another girl, or flirtin with another girl, you need to just walk out on him!!!!!! In his mind your just his puppet, hes usin you as an excuse to get girls! I know I have done it b4. I just tell the girl that I had a girl, but we broke up. I dont want it to happen to you. so just leave him!!! I know your probably gonna say I'm crazy and you love him and all that, but you gotta do what you gotta do.
2007-02-09 11:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jabo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...DONT CALL HIM!! Wait for him to call you! If there is anything left of this relationship he will give you a call. He is probably just acting like a hard ***, as a lot of boys do. He will call you if you wait... dont think about him...hang out with your friends and if he calls when you are gone dont call his *** back he will call you again. This will drive him crazy..you will run through his mind all day. It may bug you to do this but i swear to god it works and it works damn well! You gotta act like its not going to bug you and he will realize what he has! Good luck!
2007-02-09 11:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of 4 Girls!! :) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl i think you should call him life is to short for those what ifs or buts, just go ahead and do it you will never know if you don't try and if u cant u might want to question how much u really want to get back together with him you know him better then me but iam sure there is nothing wrong with giving him a little call
2007-02-09 11:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by LightSkinnedPrincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone for sure. Find yourself something to take your mind off of him (like breaking a bad habit, you need to unlearn the habit of having him around) volunteer for something or focus on a hobby or something. joining a sports group(this option has a bonus of using that energy up, you'll be too tired to think about him) or other hobby group with other people is usually best.
2007-02-09 11:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by cadillacrazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont call him!
If you cling on, or make it too obvious that u like him, its generally quite scary. Let him come back to you. If he doesnt then it isnt likely to work. Dont worry about him flirting with other people, its normal. well, maybe thats a little younge, but oh well.
Me
2007-02-09 11:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by Quick_help_is_good 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to be hard on ya but i was in a similiar situation and if you were smart you would just get over it asap and move on your young nothing will become of it and you will find somebody else trust me your better off livin your life when your young dont worry about other people
2007-02-09 11:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well i think u should call him. because i went through something simialar once. and he broke my heart and i asked do u want me to still talk to you and he said yeah he still wanted to be friends. so i would call him because he might still want to be friends with u. and if it doesnt work get some friends popcorn and a movie, thats what i did. hope everything works out.
2007-02-09 11:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by brianna s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it! you sound young and you deserve better! when you get the urge to call him do something that you love to do-call a friend, got a hobby-scrapbooking, photography, poetry, go see a movie
if he calls or talks you tell him that you would rather not be friends at this point and be nice about.
2007-02-09 11:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by heater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋