There is this guy I've known for about 4 years. We've never been uber close but we talk a bit. I REALLY like him...but my friends think he may be an obsession...He's really caring, fun, handsome, smart and an all-together good guy. The problem is he's moving away and I've tried to forget him but it seems like I won't be able to live with him half way acrossed the country. I've liked him for over two years as more than a friend but I'm too old-fashioned to ask him out. My friends say I'm obsessed, but I think it's love. I've never felt this way about any guy before and believe me I've dated plenty. Little things remind me of him and when I see couples or babies, my thought always turn to him first. Am I in love with him or is it just an obsession like everyone says?
2007-02-09 11:15:50 · 8 answers · asked by Irish Darling 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh honey please you're in love. You're so not obsessed, so please don't get that idea. Now 4 years is quite a while so its not like he's just some random hotti mchott hott ( as my little cousin says) that you just are physically attracted to. If your friends say you're obsessed with him then obviously they have never been in love themselves because when you're in love it seems like EVERYTHING , from songs to food, remind you of that person. Take a chance and go for him because this could be your last chance with him moving away and all. I am in the same boat with you honey, I have known this guy for about 9 years now and the last 6 or 7 I have fallen totally in love with him. We dated for about 5 years out of the 9. I am in love with him too and my friends say I'm sprung but like they say........love makes you do crazy things. Here's a deal if you go for your man......I'll go for mine!
2007-02-09 11:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by noella. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like an addiction (obsession). You have to accept the fact that he is moving far away. If he felt the same way about you he would be begging you to go with. Don't put him on the spot by asking if you can go. He cares about you but it doesn't seem to be the same way you feel. Let it go for now. If it is meant to be, it will. Otherwise miss him a lot right at first (mourn) then get on with your life. There's a lot of it to be lived yet.
2007-02-09 19:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by mazell41 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unlikely to be Love if you don't know him very well. Maybe it's more you're in Love with who you think he is (or want him to be). Being reminded of him is okay, what is more worrying is the possibility of your being 'obsessed' with him. The reason for this is probably in your past, if you can't resolve this maybe counselling would help? You can always keep in touch by phone, text and email and see what happens but try to be realistic.
2007-02-09 19:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him a card expressing your feelings for him. He might say No, but he could possibly say yes, you just never know.
Good luck to you...Happy valentines
2007-02-09 19:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by John R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel. if you don't you could lose him forever.
are you really willing to take that chance.
picture your life without him.---can you? --how does it feel? does it bout break your heart?
CALL HIM---BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!!!
you could be missing out on the chance of a life time.
2007-02-09 19:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what ? dont care what anyone says its really love and you need to try him out you go out and go for him!!! good luck
2007-02-09 19:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might not be able to do anything
but
make the time you have together the best it could ever be
2007-02-09 19:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by Landon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel like...NOW.
it could be love :)
good luck!!
2007-02-09 19:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋