Please help - does it matter when a man hands out his business cards to men and women alike? My 44 yo boyfriend from Australia does this with a lot of regularity - saying that if you visit Oz, give me a call - he gives them his cellphone number as well. I am very insecure in the relationship and even more so now after asking him about this. He is visiting me in the states for the next five weeks and then will go back to Australia. He claims that it is all very innocent but I think it is a load of crap. Needless to say, I am very devestated. I need to gain some perspective. Oh by the way, I am a woman - although my pic. suggests otherwise. Please help.
2007-02-09 11:02:07 · 7 answers · asked by talldreamer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The business cards aren't your problem. You are. You already don't trust this guy, why pursue the relationship any further? Just to drive yourself insane? Trust your instincts and bail. Don't wait for proof- that'll just hurt.
2007-02-09 11:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine that you have a problem with someone handing out business cards. If they're just a card with only his personal information, then THAT is a little different. If this guy wasn't the forward type, as you have described him to be, then he probably wouldn't have had the guts necessary to meet you in the states all the way from Australia. I also don't know what you may expect from a five week visit. If he lives in Australia, and plans to return after his visit, without you, then I'd say enjoy your 5 weeks and then get to work on yourself before you attempt another relationship. If you have a problem with handing out business cards, then I'd say you have some (abandonement?) issues to work through on your own. The less baggage we can bring to a new relationship the better. Relax and enjoy your time with Mr Outgoing Australia. Then begin healing yourself.
2007-02-09 11:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by TN Seeker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so insecure and devastated over the actions of another person? You have no control or influence over his life so it seems like a bit of a waste of emotional energy to be fretting day or night over whether this guy is sleeping with people other than you!
Now, here's what you do. Love yourself and realize what you REALLY want in a relationship. Not the type of man you are looking for but a type - do you want someone truthful, sincere, worldly, open, closed - what is the right man for YOU?
Now, manifest it. Notice couples at restaurants and instead of being jealous that they are happy and that you are not, look at them - how do they do it? What quality of that relationship would you like to have?
If you continue to radiate this positive energy - constantly - with passion and intent - you will find more and more people that meet your criteria approaching you - you have shifted your consciousness - or your paradigm to use a Covey-ism.
Good luck!
FP
2007-02-09 11:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What business is he in? A person that wants a successful business is going to advertise any way and to anyone they can. I give my business cards to men and women alike- I give it to them for business purposes- period! Has he given you any other reasons to distrust him? If he was only giving these numbers out to women, I would be a little concerned but if there is no other reason to be concerned then I would let go of my insecurities and support him in his business and his goals for success.
2007-02-09 11:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOThe prblem here is your insecurity...he is doing what he ought to do- making contacts.
If you don't like it find some nerd who fixes computers for the civil service.
2007-02-09 11:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that's crap too! i never did like it when a man did that!
2007-02-09 11:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cancel his ticket - he's a zero!
2007-02-09 11:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋