Anyone, under 40, would like to see manners installed to kids?

Question

what happened to standing up on the bus for an adult ?
saying pardon or excuse me ? asking to be excused from
eating ? not answering back ? say thank you, or please
can I ? If you can think of any more 'old fashioned' ideas
Please let me know, I am over 60, and live in the sticks at the
mom.........pse giv you opinions ...

Answer 1

I'm 49...and still try my damndest to be polite - but eighteen months ago put my foot in it. Was visiting friends in London, and whilst on the tube to Brixton, offered to give a woman my seat - she looked in her early/mid thirties, but was in crutches. I stood up offering my seat, but she remained on her feet. Automatically thought she would have sat down, but no - she glared at me...and the rest of the pasengers saw that, and (as they tend to do in London), jumped on the bandwagon and pulled faces of their own at me - with some around the same age as me. I realise some Londoners have chips of some degree festering away on their shoulders (like in all UK cities & towns), but it seems if you are polite there...you leave yourself open!
Now when I reach the capital, I have learnt keeping yourself to yourself with a sulky scowl does you no harm - but it means I'm seen as a smarmy old bastard. Cannae win!

Answer 2

I grew up in the sticks and would always say 'morning' to everybody I passed in the street because its considered polite, I would also let older people go on the bus before me etc. (I'm now 26)

I do think that a lot of kids arent taught the same manners these days - you only have to go to a supermarket to see a child running riot whilst their parents either ignore them or say once stop that. Then they jump down your throat when you tell the little brat to get their hands off your shopping.

When I was younger all the adults in the village I lived knew who all the young people where and if we were ever impolite or naughty you would be sure that your parents found out that day - now not as many people know their neighbours.

On the other hand I have been at the receiving end of some very rude older people who have walked in front of me when I have been standing in a queue, pushed me out the way etc and I think this is just as bad as the spoilt brat in the supermarket.

Answer 3

Well, let's first admit that npt ALL kids are petulant whining little sh*t disturbers. But I must say it's MUCH more prominent these days than i've ever seen before. Kids mouth off to teachers, parents, doctors, ANYONE... It's unacceptable!! I'm 23 and i wouldn't DARE say half the things kids say now, for fear of being very deservedly slapped across the mouth! Some children are absolute angels and others are the complete opposite, i think it truly reflects on their upbringing and how much they've been able to push the boundaries with their own parents. I think kids who ARE rude in this way are trying to be more "adult" by tearing down the "adults". Of course this is the wrong way to go about it. If they took a minute to look around they'd see that most adults DO have manners. I mean I get up for seniors on the bus, I say please and thank you, i don't eat with my mouth open and i don't insult people for fun.... what's the point? It doesn't get you anywhere in life to be rude or obnoxious!

Answer 4

I'm 17 and I have to say that I'm appauled at some of the things my peers do. I consider myself to be well mannered, and I have to tell you I get respect for it from everyone I know. I do all of the things you said except for standing up on the bus for an adult. I wouldn't do that if it was someone ages 18-50. Anyone older than that I would.

Some of the things kids do in school are rediculous. In many of my classes kids talk during class and don't even try to disguise that they are talking. My teachers don't even deal with it. They don't understand as to why they are getting bad grades in a class when all they do is talk. It really pisses me off, because I happen to like school; I pay attention in class do my work and in turn I get the reward of getting good grades. Many kids today think that they are the only person alive and everyone should work for them.

Wow I probably sound like a pretty stuck up 17 year old. I honestly am not sometimes I just get sick of ignorant kids.

Answer 5

First, only a relatively few older people I have ever noticed were rude. Some yes, but let's not tar an entire generation with such a broad brush.
As far as the young, especially kids, I think they are worse than ever before. I will say, though some parents try.
Yesterday at vet's surgery, an elderly lady came in. A lady had her little one get up and give her his seat.
Later yet another came in, I offered mine, she refused, then the lady with made her older boy get up. Though the elderly person did not apparently want to sit with her lone cat in a surgery with four dogs, there was a seat left open for her.
So, manners are being taught, simply not as much as before.
As for me, I could have sat on the floor, it was clean.
--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 6

I'm under forty and i've noticed as i've gotten older that older people are as rude as younger people. I know what your saying about manners and the young, but if more elderley folk lead by example, i'm sure younger people would follow. This is for the simple reason that younger people only do what they have learned to do, and they learn - we ALL learn - from our elders. If all we can do is tell young people off and pick on them, and in some way kind of expect them to do things better than we actually do then we are in the wrong. Saying Kids need installing manners - do you mean ALL kids or just the ones that live by you?

Answer 7

count me in! i am 26 and sometimes i am fed up and disgusted at the behaviour of some of the kids today. in addition to those that you've just mentioned, what about holding the door for someone, not being rowdy and shouting whilst on public transport? it's not that difficult to do, is it? yet for most of them, they think it's acceptable to answer back at their elders, curse, mess about. not all kids behave this way but those that do, need some discipline installed into them by their parents. don't know about you, but these days in today's age, the kids of this generation are given a free ride. because they are younger than us adults, some believe it is socially and morally acceptable to behave inappropriately, when in truth it is not. regardless of whether that person is 2, 5, 15, 36, 60 years old, all of us have a responsibility to behave and act in a respectable and gracious manner and treat others as they'd like to be treated. and that's with respect. as you said that you are over 60, i want to congratulate you for highlighting this problem. it's good to know you are concerned about this as the majority of us. good for you, i'd say!

Answer 8

well all i can say is that it is the older generations fault for having kids and teens act the way they do- I'm sixteen and i was brought up in a decent home- i was taught to say please and thank you, excuse myself, etc. the only reason that kids and teens act like that is because they were never taught anything different. i know plenty of people who could use a decent dose of "etiquette", but i have come to the conclusion that everybody that draws stereotypes for teens and kids needs to open their eyes and also take into account the other kids who do what they are told and behave like they should. also, if you have a problem with kids acting the way they do, do something about it. dont just complain about it.take into account how you acted when you were the same age and how different the world itself is now from when you were a kid. the world is changing fast and this new generation knows that the world has become a place where nice guys finish last-thus forcing teens and kids to adapt rapidly to adjust to harsh times they know are coming

Answer 9

I am 34 and mother to a 4 and a 1 year old. the first words we've taught both our children are "please" and "Thank you". i give up my seat and teach my older child to give his up on the bus if an older, disabled, or less able person gets on. it's not a burden. it makes my life and others more pleasant.
What I find annoying is for example, at pre-school, all the children are expected to greet politely, at least with a "hello", but it makes me sick that the parents do not greet each other!! I always say hello when I walk into the entrance hall, but receive no replies... how can we expect children to be polite when parents are so rude?

Answer 10

Excuse my English first of all, please.

I sure would like to see more kids with manners nowadays.

You know what I'd like to see also? I'd like to see some of the elder people lighten up a little bit more. But that's just a part of it...what I'd *really* like to see is people of ages being a little bit more nicer to everybody.

Everyone should be treated as equals, and not only kids should learn their manners. Just because some people are older doesn't mean they have a right to be rude/ in a bad mood with just anybody/ whoever they choose to be rude to.

{I'm saying this to everyone, it's not that I think that the asker is a person that needs to lighten up...My answer is not really directed to the asker and is not meant to offend, I really just gave it much thought to the question, and this is what I would really like to see in *everyone*. Some of our elders should stop being so moody with the some of the people who are younger than them, that's all. But of course, kids today are much more rude than anyone else!!}.