Im just 17 and my brother is 13. The problem is that my brother is acting really juvenille and horrible towards my mother’s decisions. For example, if my brother is grounded and wants to go out with his friends, my mom says no but then my brother insist and asks my dad. Which of course says yes. Then it leads into a fight between my mom and my dad and then i get into it telling my brother that he is grounded and that he should respect my mother’s decisions. I think that my brother’s actions are tearing up my family apart. I dont know what to do anymore. I need advise to see if family counseling would be the right choice. Please help me.
2007-02-09 10:49:48 · 4 answers · asked by Max 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it sounds like Ur mother and father had already had there problems between them selves. Ur brother just knows that dad is easy going and will let him do more. he using Ur parents. i think that u should start saying some thing out loud to him when u see him doing that. maybe Ur parents might hear u and see what he is continuously doing! he might think its tattling but hell Ur the older brother beat him up if he starts something!! lol
2007-02-09 11:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by shoppingreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem alot more down to earth than most guys in our age group. He is just being the stereotype of teenagers. He thinks he is acting cool, but really he is acting like an a**. I personally don't think you guys need counseling. Eventually, your parents will get fed up with hom playing the both of them like that, and he'll get a NO from the both of them. If you want to help, just tell your dad before your brother asks him, that your mom said no. If he still says yes, thats a problem in your parents marriage, not your brothers fault, although he does seem to be taking advantage of it!
2007-02-09 12:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by Yay me!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something like that, would be between you mom and dad. If you brother if grounded. And your mom says no to him going out. The that would normally be that. Unfortunately, it's not. He's playing the game of pitting your parent against each other. Quite well I might add. You really cant do anything about your parents. They need to work out their lack of communication. Maybe you could TALK to your brother, and explain to him the consequences of his actions. Like separation of you parents. Which will effect his life as well as yours and your parents.
2007-02-09 11:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by Lee R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really to much you yourself can do. You are speaking your mind and telling him he is out of line, but he is just a child. And like most kids that don't gt there way they go to the other parent for the answer they want to hear...Your parents need to come together and stick by each others side and not give in to him!
2007-02-09 11:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋