I am 20years old and my feance is 24 we are getting married on March 17 of this year. We have been living together for about a year now. And we have discused children. I was wondering how long after the wedding we should start trying?
2007-02-09 10:46:52 · 14 answers · asked by Brittany D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Whenever you are ready. As long as you are financially stable and secure with each other then go for it!
My husband and I were together for one year and then moved in together, then a year after that he asked me to marry him, then one month after the wedding, he said that he was ready to have another baby...so we did! I have two children from a previous marriage and he also has two children from a previous marriage....so now we have 5 kids! Mine are age 10 and 12, and my stepkids are age 9 and 10....and together we now have a 5 week old baby girl! I have never been so happy in all of my life!
Good luck and congrats on the marriage!
2007-02-09 11:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one knows that more than the 2 of you.
I dont know what to tell you, really. I was 21 when I got married and within 3 months I was pregnant. Our 2nd came just a year after the 1st.
I was 31 when I had my 3rd and it was much easier (she is a year now). My advice to for everyone to wait until they are 30. :) I know that isnt realistic, however.
I would sit down and each write a list of things you would like to accomplish in the next few years. If some of those things would have to be put off to have a baby, then you might be closer to the answer you are looking for...
2007-02-09 18:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by banderson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very personal decision. Only your fiance and you know how much you want to have children and when you want to start having them. However, even though you have been living together for a year, marriage has a tendency to change things somewhat. It might not be a bad idea to give yourselves some time together as man and wife before starting your family. Pregnancy is no picnic and it can be a strain on a new marriage.
2007-02-09 18:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by colorados_lost_rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a couple years. Enjoy your time together first. If you're anything like me (and I sincerely hope you're not), you'll be completely miserable and sick for the first 5 months of your pregnancy, and also very cranky. That's no way to start off a new marriage! The best thing my hubby and I did for our relationship was wait a few years.
2007-02-09 18:51:32 · answer #4 · answered by A W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say try to wait at least a year. That way you guys can get used to married life and you can spend time doing things, just the 2 of you. You can go on vacation or even just to dinner without having to worry about who will watch the children. Congrats to you and your future hubby!!
2007-02-09 18:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say right away, but at least by the end of your first year as a married couple.
2007-02-09 19:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take a few years
I did, we travel, I worked, we brought a house
We had fun
I would take a couple of years to enjoy being married
Once you have children, it is different
Good Different, but enjoy being a couple
You are you enough to do it
2007-02-09 18:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss this with your husband. When you both feel you are ready to be parents and you have the money to support a child, then you should start.
Best wishes in your marriage!
â¥Kerry
2007-02-09 18:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's something only you and ur husband can decide....Don't be pumpin out kids if ur not ready and willin to give that child 110 percent of ur love and affection....We got enough neglected children out there....
2007-02-09 18:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by marcolam31 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should start trying when you are both ready and able to take care of kids.
2007-02-09 18:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jen G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋