When I read the Bible it sounds like two people commit themselves to one another and are married. If you are living with the person that you are commited to and spend the rest of your life with (but aren't married yet b/c of financial reasons) and are having sex out of Love not Lust...Is it wrong in God's eyes?
2007-02-09 10:45:49 · 21 answers · asked by Tia 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It is a sin. Sex with unmarried couples can cause emotional and financial problems if a partner doesn't want to "stick around" after the birth of the child. Marriage is a more stable bet, because the couple has commited themselves in all parts of life (emotional, fincancial, etc.) to raise a family.
2007-02-09 10:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes, weddings occurred in the bible. If every wedding was outlined, detailed or even mention imagine how long the bible would be. Most people won't/don't take the time to read it now. The only way to become a husband and wife was through marriage. The New Testament tells of how Jesus turned water into wine at a wedding. If there were no weddings there would be no distiction between adultery and fornication. Unmarried sex whether out of love or lust is wrong and is a sin! God hates it but He loves us which is why He allows us to repent and He forgives us. Yes, I am a sinner.
2007-02-09 11:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by The Last Good Man 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So, then, is “living in sin” no longer a sin? Jehovah tells us in no uncertain terms how he feels about such conduct. His Word, the Bible, states: “Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.” (Hebrews 13:4) Sex before marriage may not be a sin in the view of liberal clergymen and churchgoers, but it is a serious sin in God’s eyes! And so are adultery, incest, and homosexuality. (Leviticus 18:6; 1Â Corinthians 6:9, 10) God requires that we refrain from such practices, which he views as unclean.
MARRIAGE
The union of a man and a woman as husband and wife according to the standard set out by God. Marriage is a divine institution, authorized and established by Jehovah in Eden. Marriage brings into being the family unit, the family circle. Its basic purpose was the reproducing of the members of the human family, to bring into existence more creatures of the human kind. Jehovah the Creator made male and female and ordained marriage as the proper arrangement for the multiplication of the human race. (Ge 1:27, 28) The first human wedding was performed by Jehovah, as described at Genesis 2:22-24.
2007-02-09 15:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by amorromantico02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you read Genesis, God performed the very first marriage ceremony between Adam and Eve.Genesis 2:23-24..everything else is a perversion of the original intent. Romans 1, Galatians 5, Hebrews13. Betrothals were arranged by parents and were guaranteed the purity of the bride as a virgin. The marriage party lasted several days. Any infidelity were viewed as crimes and were punishable by stoning. Not a rock party, you would want to attend. Those stones could weigh up to 20 pounds.
There were 15 men in the Bible who were polygamists, beginning with Cain, Solomon and King Saul....Leviticus 18. Hope this answers your question.
2007-02-09 11:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. It isn't what we like to hear but that's the way it is. In Biblical times the bride actually went to live with the groom and his family. She was usually around the age of thirteen. She had her own room and wasn't allowed to "know" her husband, in a biblical sense, until the big night!
What do you mean by "committed". It seems to me that it doesn't mean the same thing as it used to. If you want to be in God's will, get married, go to a church that believes in the whole Bible and live the way that He wants you to. It's easy and He will help you alongthe way! Experience Acts 2:38 (God will forgive ALL of your sins), Get the Holy Ghost with the evidence of speaking in an unknown language. Do this and I can guarantee that you will never have any guilt or regrets. You will be walking in newness of life!!!
2007-02-09 11:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by michael m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2. Marriage certificate.
When a bride and groom stand at the altar and declare their consent before the Church, it’s not merely a formal recognition of something that already exists between them. At the moment they give their consent, bride and groom are fundamentally changed. They become right then and there (and only then and there) husband and wife. What did not exist five minutes before does exist now- a marital bond sealed by the Holy Spirit that, once consummated, can never be dissolved by anything but death.
Sexual intercourse is the expression of this bond. It’s the visible sign of this invisible reality. If this bond doesn’t exist between a man and a woman, sexual intercourse between them is utterly void of its ‘raison d’etre.’
Regardless of how much passion, feeling, and sentiment may be involved, such acts of intercourse can never be acts of true love. If the couple understand what sex and marriage mean, and live out of respect for that meaning, then the thought that they would have sex before God establishes the marriage bond between them (via their consent) is unthinkable.
A couple who is regularly engaging in sex before they marry, and sees nothing wrong with it, demonstrates that they don’t understand the meaning of sex and marriage. Such a couple will most likely fail to comprehend the significance of the marriage bond altogether. They’ll tend to reduce the change in their relationship to a piece of paper --- a “Marriage Certificate” --- and continue having sex as they always did.
The fact that the couple is now married does not automatically make their sexual union what it’s supposed to be. Sex is only what it’s supposed to be if it expresses the commitment to free, total, faithful, and fruitful self-giving. There are many married couples who have plenty of sex that actually violates their own wedding vows. The fact that it’s happening after the wedding has taken place doesn’t make it OK.
Instead of framing the discussion in terms of premarital sex vs. post marital sex, it’s much more accurate to speak of non marital sex vs. marital sex. It’s impossible for unmarried ppl to have marital sex. They have no marriage bond to express, no wedding vows to renew. On the other hand, while the existence of marriage bond is no guarantee that sex will always be marital, it is absolute prerequisite for the possibility.
2007-02-09 11:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something about swearing to one another, before God and the community, that you are going to be faithful to one another, love one another, in sickness and in health, richer-poorer, better-worse, 'til death.
As it is now, maybe it isn't the case for you, but it probably is the case for your man... somewhere in the back of his mind his has a way out when times get rough.
Secondly, from a religious point of view, a married couple gives testimony top society, by virtue of living out of their marital vows, that God is faithful as you and your spouse are faithful to one another.
The sin is not necessarily having sex, but the sin is in the pride of wanting to do things your way rather than God's way, and failing to do everything in your power to give glory to God. When you live together without getting married, you are only giving glory to yourselves, and not to God.
Of course, if you don't believe in God, then it really doesn't matter what you do, does it?
2007-02-09 11:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What possible financial reasons are there to not get married?
You don't need a big expensive wedding, bosses tend to pay married people more, and you get big huge tax breaks.
2007-02-09 10:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there were weddings in the bible... in the old testament it was more of a purchase than anything else... but Jesus' first miracle was at a wedding... Jesus' mother told the servants to do what he said... Jesus said fill all the jars... then take them inside... tada.. it was the best wine...
Sex outside of marriage is considered adultery... because you aren't having sex with your spouse/husband/wife ... in Virginia .. its illegal to have sex outside of the confines of marriage... how they police it.. I don't know.. but to answer your question... measuring the relationship and the actions against the bible... its wrong...
2007-02-09 10:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by teche16 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can two people in love and making love be wrong ?????
Think about it ???????
It is just what the churches want you to believe to keep control
How can love be a sin ??????
Open you mind and only believe what you feel is true to your Soul
Not what people want you to believe to control your mind
And for those believers
How do you know it is wrong in Gods Eyes?????
How do you know ?????
Are you saying Love is wrong "God is about Love" !
The only Sin about having sex before getting married is the person that thinks it is a SIN !
Love & Blessings
Milly
2007-02-09 10:59:32 · answer #10 · answered by milly_1963 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋