i have been going out with him for 3 years. then he graduated and left to the navy when he left we broke up. then he came back in christmas and we got back together. everything was going fine until i was messing around with his cell when i saw a girl pregnant. i asked him who it was and he told me that he got that girl pregnant while we were not together. what would you do?
would you go back out with him or leave him for good. and remember i LOVE him
2007-02-09 10:43:47 · 26 answers · asked by the girl who wonders 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you may LOVE him but he sure as hell doesn't love you. you must be fooling yourself if you think this guy wants a commitment from you. sorry this sounds harsh, but the guy isn't ready to be "tied" down. hell, you said it yourself, the second you guys broke up he f*cked another girl and impregnated her. should make you wonder what he really feels about you.
2007-02-09 10:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To me that is not cheating. You were broken up. You have to think long and hard about the situation and what you want out of life. Can you handle him being involved with his child's mother? Remember, if he is a good guy then he will be involved with the child as well as the mother for 18 plus years. How do you feel about him having a child in the first place? Personally, I don't know what I would do. I am currently seeing someone whom has a kid and I am unsure if I will allow it to progress into a dating scenario due to the fact of him having a child. I do not want to develop a relationship with a child and then possibly leave it's life. That can cause some ill feelings for the kid to have to deal with. Even though you love him you have to figure out what it is that you want and need.
2007-02-09 10:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by gomorrah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is added baggage now with this person. My suggestion is you let him settle this matter first before hooking up with him once again. Sharing a child with a woman is a totally different matter compared to having just gone out with the woman while you had broken up with him. The child is a permanent fixture in his life and the other woman would be, too, being the mother of the child. Think about this whole situation before you get yourself tangled up again.
Another point to consider is the reason for the initial break-up. He's still in the service and will be in the service for some time. If this was the reason, it's still there. He will also have the opportunity of meeting other women while being in the service.
2007-02-09 10:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not cheating if you two werent together.
So now he is going to be having a baby with some other girl. Do you want to be in a complicated relationship like that? Does he have any feelings for this girl? Does he want to be involved in this childs life?
If you get back with him there will always be trust issues there especially if he is going to be in this other girls life because of the baby.
I would move on.
2007-02-09 10:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, he wasn't cheating on you because you two werent together. You really can't fault him for seeing other people when that's what you do when you break up with someone. If you don't mind him having a child, then stay with him. I'm sure you weren't a nun when you broke up with him, so give the guy a break. It's not like he actually CHEATED on you. But definitely let him know that this pregnant situation is bothering you and talk it over with him.
2007-02-09 10:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What we would do doesn't matter... if you love him that much, stay with him. My biggest concern is this - why didn't he tell you about this girl before you found the pic in his cell? That's kind of an important piece of information to leave out, I think. What is he doing about it? Is he going to know and support his child? That's a big indication of his character.
2007-02-09 10:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how he is handeling the whole situation.
he didnt cheat on you. you said so yourself htat you guys broke up. now that you are back together, has he been faithful to you? if he has, then the only thing you need to consider is how much you want to be involved in that particular situation. if he wants to be a father to his child, then you should want to help be involved with him. that is something you and him need to discuss. as long as you are really sure that he truely loves you, and that he wont sleep with anyone while you are together, then i dont see any reason not to trust, or be with him. good luck, and i hope everything works out!
2007-02-09 10:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by xsaraxbethx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Sure, maybe you do love him, but I can't imagine why. Knocking a girl up in the first place is irrresponsible enough, but if he claims to now be in a relationship with you and not the mother of his baby...what makes you think he wouldn't do the same thing to you just as easily?
2007-02-09 10:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I wouldn't get back together with him no matter how much I loved him. He got someone pregnant, he has a child coming, you dont want to get into that mix, just stay friends with him. The girl he got pregnant needs him more than you do right now.
2007-02-09 10:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by Diana_Is_Amazing 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's not cheating, since you were broken up. However, going back to him is a bad idea. You may love him, but he's got other fish to fry. He needs to take care of that baby. That is a life-long commitment, and if he doesn't take care of the baby, he's a bum.
2007-02-09 10:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you love him. The problem is, he didn't care enough about you to tell you the story without you having to find out on your own. Trust me when I tell you that is no good for any relationship.
Cut and run. There is someone much better for you.
2007-02-09 11:57:03 · answer #11 · answered by I_Spy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋