Forgive him or break up?

Question

We've dated for 6 months. Things that make me think we should break up: He's acted jealous before as in asking where I was and who I was with and third degree if a guys name was even mentioned (he admits he has jealousy at time and partially do to insecurity). He's made comments about my body that left me self-concious. Should I just forgive and forget or move on with my life?

Answer 1

Frankly, I'd try talking to him very candidly about the issues you see before doing anything drastic. Guys are notoriously bad mind-readers, I know, I'm one of them. If there's a problem I would much prefer that whoever just comes out a tells me so I'm aware of it and then I can either explain myself or make a change. Talk to him when you're both in a good mood and can have a proper conversation, don't throw this out there in the middle of a fight - that'll get you no where.

If you have had a proper conversation with him about this and nothing came from it and it appears as though he's going to continue to be jealous, insecure and insensitive then dump his @ss and move on. Life's too short to waste time on that crap. There are plenty of guys out there that aren't like that.

good luck.

Answer 2

Your not off to a good start so why prolong it? The jealousy will only get worse as time goes on and that's no way to live. Also making negative comments about your body is really out of line. Things will go downhill from here I'm sure. Best to break it off and move on. That's what dating is all about, finding the right match for you and he's not it. Don't settle.

Answer 3

You need to seriously think about whether anything else happened. If he is so insecure that he needs to make comments that make you feel self conscious about your body or even bad about it, then you need to leave. If you guys have been going out for 6 months, he should know what makes you feel bad. Its not right for a person to make another one feel bad in any kind of relationship. Personally I would break up with him. But you can decide whether he is worth talking to about this or whether he won't change. Hope it works out!

Answer 4

hmm it just depends. First off, i WISH my boyfriend was jealous cuz usually im the jealous one. Think how you would feel if you could just do anything you wanted and your boyfriend wouldnt care...it would seem like he doesnt even care if you cheat on him. And sometimes guys are stupid and make body comments not realizing that girls are sensitive about it. Ask him if its something that really bothers him and if it doesnt then he should stop (what if you said he had a small penis) haha. You should be confident enough in yourself to say if he doesnt like how you are that you can move on to someone that will. You just have to think about how it makes you feel because some girls dont mind and some girls do

Answer 5

Well to be honest. Guys do that. With him asking you all those questions it really is a sign that he cares about you and that he wants to be the only one in your life. He is always going to do that. I have done that with my girlfriend and I dont usually get jealous but I really do want to be the only one in her life and I know that she feels the same but it is just something you think about when you care about the person. I know it gets old and annoying when the guy keeps asking it. But you have to realize that he is always going to think like that. Now him saying stuff about you body. I have no idea what the hell his problem is with that. It could just be a sign of him trying to pick a fight with you or the jealousy thing really could be getting to him and he is getting really angry. So I dont really think anyone can tell you to stay with him or break up with him because its your decision. Go with what your heart says.

Answer 6

Do you really need all that drama and negativity in your life? Jealously is a sign of lack of trust and insecurity. And making comments about your body to make you insecure? Sounds like he's a true jerk. I was in a relationship that started like that, and it ended up with a restraining order and him in jail for domestic abuse. I'm not saying that he's going to do that, but why take the chance of it getting worse (guys like him rarely change) and continually making yourself miserable. Not once did you mention that you love him...Honey, you need to move on, for your own sake. Good luck!

Answer 7

Definitely move on. The jealousy will only get worse and so will the comments about your body. Please be aware that if the jealousy gets worse, it can lead to physical abuse. He is obviously insecure. Move on NOW and find someone that will respect you and treat you like you deserve to be treated. Life is too short to waist it on someone who does not treat you the way you want to be treated. Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

If you are under the age of twenty five then definitely BREAK-UP!!! You are to young and have entirely to much life ahead of you to be concerned with someone who is not totally "Pro-You" anything else should not even be considered--- you can still be friends but just layoff the other stuff until you find the right guy who treats you right and respects you and likes you for you.

Answer 9

If your guy is jealous, then break up NOW!!! He isn't going to change and it is obviously making you uncomfortable. You are better off being alone, at least that way, no one is there to ask you questions about where you've been, etc. And there is no one to make you feel self-conscious about yourself. Remember this: Love thyself, put no one above thee. And besides, who needs jealousy in their lives anyway?

Answer 10

Sometimes people say things they really don't mean. But if you are unsure of your relationship with him you guys should give each other some time apart. That will give you enough space and time to put your relationship in order at the end you will realize if you are meant to be together.