Me, mum and my 18 year old brother were in the car and i was just asking him about this song i heard to make conversation and he started to be mean so i left him and didn't talk to him since he's always so mean why should i bother.Half way through when going home he starts trying to talk to me and saying i have jam dounuts for you and starts putting it in my face and hitting me with the bag so i carried on ignoring him. Then after 10 mins of him doing that it got to the point where i was so annoyed i just shoved the dounut bad with my elbow! and then he punched me on my arm. I feel like bashing him but i can't because my mind keeps telling me don't need to stoop down to his level! and if i hit him he will hit me and who knows i might be in hospital. And Now i really want to go to sleep but i can't because he has put his music on so loud i actually feel like crying!! He always hits me and is abusive to my mum also!. It's also effecting my speech problem (stutter) too please help!
2007-02-09 10:28:14 · 13 answers · asked by Pureness =) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I had the same relashionship with my brother always bothering me and my sister specially we have only 1 year difference , he's just still immature to have family values and to realise he loves you but believe he loves you. My brother changed a lot since i moved to england that he sees me only once a year and has more respect for my mother , give him time to mature men takes longer than girls
2007-02-10 20:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by grannyatlondon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all what age are you? The way your question is phrased it doesn't seem you are that young. Could you not just be over reacting? If he put the dounuts in your face where was your mum, from your posting I would have thought she was still there? All brothers and sisters have fights and putting loud music on is a thing 18 yrs olds do. Talk to your mum about this and perhaps you can all sit down and attempt an amicable solution. You say you have a speech problem but often this can be caused by being over sensitive. Not meaning to sound negative, just trying to explore all possibilities.
2007-02-10 12:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being bullied by an adult who happens to be your brother. Your mother is unable to protect you and may herself suffer bullying.
I think you should seek help outside of your family. If you are at school or college find a teacher, such as a Year Head, and explain your fears.
Physical abuse of this sort by an adult is also a concern of the Police and you might in the end have to take this big step and involve them.
If you do nothing then his behaviour will not change and may continue for years and possibly get worse.
Bullies seldom like to be confronted but because he is likely to be much more powerful physically than you or your mum I think you are right not to fight back. However you should speak out against his abuse - tell him not to do it and tell him to quieten his music. This at least leaves him in no doubt that you do not like it and do not want to put up with it.
Don't feel that you are letting your mum down in some way by explaining this problem to a teacher or to the Police. You have every right to be protected from abusive adults.
2007-02-09 11:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by bumperbuffer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
David 18529 says it perfectly. Phone childline as soon as you can. Your dad will probably not be able to break this cycle of abusive behaviour. To him it is normal and acceptable. I know you love your dad but it is not acceptable for you or your brother. You must do something soon. As boys grow up they generally do clash with their dads and what has already started could easily get out of hand if something isn't done. You owe it to yourself, your brother, your mum and also in the end, your dad, to try to raise the subject with an outsider who can get you the help you need. Best wishes. X
2016-05-24 18:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF your mom will not do anything to stop this abuse then simply call the police on him. He is 18 and will need to stop or charges can be brought against him.
Any parent that lets this to continue for than 2 times is a complete dipshit in MY opinion !!! Sounds like your mom needs a smack upside the head too !!
2007-02-09 11:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK OK just calm down...
If you really feel this could seriously injure you tell your mom, an aunt, or a grandma. From what I heard it sounds like sibling rivalary only go by your instincts it is not right for him to hit you or your mom.
2007-02-09 10:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by help:) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where is your dad? May be your dad could help. Or tell the police or a social worker, these people may be can talk your Big Brother into his sense.
2007-02-09 15:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound like abuse, it sounds like brother/sister fighting. My sister used to put me between two bean bags and sit on me. It wasn't abuse, it was just mean. Stay away from him.
2007-02-09 11:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by coutterhill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to knock him one good time the next time he hurts you or your mother. He won't expect it from you, and maybe he will get the message not to mess with you.
2007-02-09 10:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by ericaofgordon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom , to kick his A** out of the house
2007-02-09 11:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋