I have this friend at my school. She's nice, but hurt my feelings..because she made fun of my singing and how

Question

I look. She annoys my friends too. I still want to be friends, but she's hurt my feelings. What should I do?

She always says like No Offense or something, but she thinks shes just being honest.

Answer 1

She sounds like a bottom feeder... like she keeps others around she knows she can push around or make fun of so she can feel better about herself. Eventually she will probably do something really mean or say something really hurtful so if i were you i wouldn't let it get to that point. Tell her " if you are my friend you wouldn't do these things so you need to decide, if you are stop being that way."

Answer 2

I've been in the same boat. I was the last of my friends to date anyone and ended up dating people who weren't right for me just because they liked me and I wanted a boyfriend and had very little self esteem. High school is kinda rough when you don't have a boyfriend and everyone else does. But it does get better :) And its really good that you put school first. It is the most important thing for you right now and will get you farther in life. Just focus on school and be happy with your self and everything else will just fall into place. For me I focused on school and made some great friends in college and when I was least expecting it I did find someone and we are getting married in two weeks. And as for your friend.. if she's teasing you about not dating anyone then she's not being a really good friend. She should either know that it upsets you and stop or actively try to help you find someone rather than make you feel like crap. There are some people that need guys to make themselves feel worthy. But you seem to have your priorities straight. So focus on school and once you raise your self-esteem you will find someone and you'll be happier than those girls. Just don't ever settle for someone thats not right for you just because they like you and you want a boyfriend.

Answer 3

Nothing hurts more then being teased of how you look. She's no friend if she's making fun of something you can't change( or you can but shouldn't or don't want to). Friends accept you how you are. Next time she says something just say" Okay" or "So?" or something to make it look like you don't care. Nothing is more boring then listening to someone say something over and over again knowing no one cares. Don't you agree? Tell the same to your friends. Don't care what other people think, cuz they won't even bother to bug you. Thats what I do. Well I hope this helps. Good luck;)

Answer 4

Could be she is jealous because you have a great personality and people are naturally attracted to you.

Tell her you don't like the way she is behaving and if she takes a strop - ignore her. Naughty children behave to the reaction they get - if you react to the crap stuff then she will keep it up - if you don't she will soon get sick of being ignored.
If she is positive and friendly with you then praise her - yes I know this is patronising - but she cleary needs help to mature.

If she realises how she comes across then she might not keep it up.

She should be thankful for a good friend like you.
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Answer 5

Sorry to say, but if she is really your friend, she wouldn't make fun of you. She probably just likes having someone around to torment. It sounds like you have other friends, so just forget this girl. All she's going to do is cause you pain, and you don't need that. Start by telling her how you feel, and that if she wants to be your friend, she needs to act like it, and that you won't put up with her bad mouthing you. See how it goes, and if nothing changes, just let it go. Good luck!

Answer 6

Two things are going on here, you have to decide if #2 or #3 apply to you.
1. Your friend lacks tact. She hopefully will develop it in time.

2. You want the truth.
3. You don't want the truth.

If you whant an honest opinion, then don't get upset when someone gives you one. If you just want to feel good about everything, then don't feel bad when you find out someone lied to you.

Answer 7

Sometimes honesty hurts! Honey, you'll experience many of these happenings before you grow up and maybe even during your adulthood. I suggest you either answer her remarks with your own or accept them and go on. You might say to her "if you don't like my singing then don't listen!" or "if you don't like my looks, try looking into a mirror sometime!" or something similar to these. Counter her remarks with your own. As far as your other friends go, tell them to try my above suggestions as well. Maybe if everyone she cuts down starts giving it back to her she'll get the hint! Good luck

Answer 8

Speak your mind. Honesty is the best way to keep a friendship going. Being a good friend is not lying to them about something they need to know. Just tell her how you feel about it and if she doesn't sincerely change what she does than don't hang with her anymore.

Answer 9

Tell her that you enjoy her friendship but the things that she says that hurts your feelings has to stop and then just tell her what bothers you. Tell her that she doesn't realise that she hurts people with these things and if she though more about what she was going to say it would probably stop. Take care Heather

Answer 10

Maybe you should redefine your meaning of the word FRIEND. REAL friends don't hurt other friends or anyone else for that matter, I would be honest with her by letting her know just how her behavior is affecting you, if she doesn't stop then, leave her alone she is not a real friend. It sounds a little bit like she maybe jealous of you...........................Let me know how it turns out..Good Luck