if love doesn't come, how do you deal with it?

Question

i'd like to hear from people who can relate to my question (i'm talking of course ab. romance) and do not confuse it with self-love, friends & family, career & hobbies.

i also believe not everyone is blessed with this (sadly) and that it may indeed never come.

thanx

Answer 1

You deal with it by enjoying and appreciating what you have and by knowing that you and your life are complete even if the *love* hasn't come....yet. I think people look to hard for fullfillment from outside sources without realizing that it is you, your personal contentment that will see you through. Love is wonderful, but don't feel like less of a person if you don't have romantic love. That can be a fleeting thing whereas friends and family are forever.

Answer 2

I think love is not suppose to come, it just happens. I know I am going to sound like a hallmark card. I think a person should take a chance, and experience the good and the bad, if you never take the chance you will never know. I think, dealing with it is more of a guessing game. Looking back at your life, and wondering where you turned away your chance. When you fall in love, its not a fairytale not always, but at least you know what its like to feel that way toward someone.

Answer 3

I know what you mean, I also know a 35 year old man that has had few girlfriends. In college he was studying, and now he's into his career and too scared to go out and when he does get a girlfriend it's from online but he scares her away cuz he's all about "i finally found the one!!" I know it sucks but patience is key, if you force something it's not going to turn out right. Try to go out as much as you can because youre not gonna find someone sitting in your house. Be friendly with people and dont have the attitude that nothing will happen, you dont have to be flirty but if you are friendly ppl will see that and you never know if something is going to happen. Just be open to anything and if you were meant to be with someone it will happen

Answer 4

Some things "come" and some things you have to go out on a quest for. There are millions of people out there trying to find someone, so I am guessing you have really high standards for a mate. That's the same thing with me. I would rather fantasize about an ideal mate than settle for someone far below my ideal.

Answer 5

Higher expectations can result in larger disappointments.
Drop the expectations that love will occur, the lesser to deal with the aftermath.
I am not saying turn off the love switch in your brain, just expect it to happen according to someon else's schedule and not yours.
It will happen.

Answer 6

if you want love you must try to find it. its not usually just gonna come right to you. if your not out there looking then you truely may never enjoy feeling love. love can be very hurtful too though. losing a loved one is probably the most awful pain someone can feel.

Answer 7

yes ive never loved been loved, but it is not such a big deal. there are much bigger things in this world, travel read and learn it will open up what is really valuable

Answer 8

when the time is right there will be someone for you ... but just try your best and don't just fall for the 1st one that goes out with you .

Answer 9

love comes to everyone sooner or l8ter it takes time it's not always fast but soon you'll be happy someone your meant to be with.

Answer 10

you deal with it by loving yourself, and i mean physically and emotionally, also date about and fine tune your taste while you are waiting for love. learn what you prefer sexually and for the long run...