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I think I have bi-polar disorder but I can't tell my mom. my dad walked out last year so I don't know where he is, my grandparents are dead, my family from my father's side are like him and my mom turned every family member on her side against me. The school counselor tells my mom everything I say to her. I am hurting people I love the most and my mother yells and screams at me because she doesn't understand why I do it. She has no idea. I know that if I don't tell her, she will never know but her and I have been having serious fights. I have ended up in a lot of trouble because of her and she is being abusive. I know this may sound dramatic, but she HATES me. I feel the same way back though. I really need to get help about the bi-polar but I have no one I can tell so I can't get medicine. Please help.

2007-02-09 09:57:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health Mental Health

I think I am bi-polar because

a) I have done research.
b) my best friend's mom was bi-polar and I talked to him about it and he said he thinks I have it.

About the abusive. I purposely didn't mention this because every time I do, people tell me I need to call the cops or get out of the house.
But she hits and kicks me, sends me to my room and turns off the electricity. She calls me bit** and a drug addict (which I am not) She calls me fat (I am 88 pounds), stupid, and worthless.

Please, please, please don't comment on how I should get out of the house or say being 88 pounds is unhealthy.

I am 14 years old by the way.

2007-02-09 10:30:06 · update #1

15 answers

talk to your principal about this problem and ask the principal to get another counselor

you need help and medication

do this as soon as possible

2007-02-09 10:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by sm bn 6 · 1 0

As a family member of some one with a mental illness, I am telling you that you need to talk! Can you see a counselor from school or GP and have your mom join in? There is a wonderful program that your mom can take to learn about coping with a member that has a mental illness. The program is called family ,family. She can find out more about that through the mental health society.
vvYou need to be able to seek treatment and talk about how you feel. Sounds to me like you and your mom have been through so much already some counseling alone and together would be great. If your mom does not feel comfortable with the fact that you feel you have an illness then she needs to become educated and not fear it.
There are tons of people in this world that have different mental illnesses. From depression to anxiety or any other of the numerous illnesses people are suffering! Society is sometimes in fear of mental illness but that is changing as people become more educated. The ignorance comes from a lack of knowledge. Don't take it personal just look after you!!!

Your on the right track, you realize that you need help! Treatments are available, you can live a healthy and productive life if you get help now.
You deserve to be happy!

2007-02-09 10:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by TaraLynn M 1 · 0 0

I don't know you or your family, but I don't understand why it should be scary at all (to tell your mom). It's a part of life and growing up for females. She should definitely be told. Don't wait until your next period. There's no reason for anyone to treat you differently other than making sure you have appropriate sanitary products to use during your period. She may also get into some talks about sex (or deeper talks than in the past) as you are now capable of becoming pregnant.

2016-05-24 02:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

You may or may not have bi-polar disorder. I can tell you this diagnosis is not supposed to be applied to adolescents. Extreme shifts in mood are not uncommon in teenager, which I suspect you are, and are exacerbated by problematic situations. You school counselor has a duty to report a number of things that you say and do to you mom, not everything but quite a bit. I'd start by going to her and talking to her about your feeling about your relationship with your mom and the way it is effecting school and your other relationships. If your counselor won't listen find another adult, preferably at school, and try talking to that person. If you have to call the crisis and information line in your community. Almost every town has one. You sound like a smart kid and realize you do have a problem and that it isn't all your mother. I also suspect that you have some sort of understanding that your mom is struggling emotionally and maybe in other ways (financially??) since your dad left. At your age you should be able to put yourself in her shoes for a few minutes to imagine how she is feelings (hurt, angry, overwhelmed??). As a kid, it really isn't your primary job to worry about your mom but in this case you may have to cut her a little slack and take some responsibilty for your role in your conflict with her. You say she is being abusive but your don't say how so I can't comment on that. Hitting, ugly name calling and refusal to feed or provide shelter for you are abusive but if she just isn't tolerating your bad behavior or won't give you all the freedoms or privilages you want please don't refer to that as abuse because nobody who can help you will take that seriously. Good luck.

2007-02-09 10:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by kvcar2 4 · 0 0

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I am sorry to hear about your struggles. I suspect from your statement that you are a teenager. My suggestion to you is to look for assistance. Most counties have psychiatric services. Your first priority should be to take care of yourself.
If we are not well or healthy you will not be able to develop the relationship that you want to have with your mother. Do not worry about your mom or what she will think. You need to make yourself a priority until you get better. This may be very difficult for you to do. It sound that both you and your mother have been through some difficult times. Just remember the best way for you guys to work through these issues is by being honest. Remember that mental illness does not make you a bad person, and it is not your fault. Seek treatment so that you may feel better about yourself, and have a relationship with your mother. Go to your nearest county hospital and ask them about the psychiatric services that they provide. You need to talk to someone.

2007-02-09 10:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by EW 2 · 0 0

WOW. your life sounds just like mine was. I bet a million bucks you are not bi-polar. I bet your psycho mother has messed with your head so much you just want to have a clinical problem so she will have to leave you alone. I ran away from home when I was 14. I missed school. I had a hard life. but I succeeded in the end. You will do as you please, of course but I hope you can find the courage to stand up to her without having to hide behind your bi-polar shield.

2007-02-10 11:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by wAHAw 1 · 0 0

You sound school age. certainly there is some school counselor who can help. Jonathan Wright (Tahoma clinic) says most everyone is deficient in Lithium. He has been taking 5 mg/ day for 20 years. You might know that high doses of lithium are what many people use for bi-polar.

2007-02-09 10:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 1 0

You can talk to the priciple or a docter too

how about the police or someone that works at a church or something

i suggest you decide on something, don't be scared to speak up and be honest, as quically as possible

good luck and blessed be

2007-02-09 10:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by ToTalLY mE 2 · 0 0

Honey, you really need to talk to your G.P/Physician. Keeping your fears to yourself isn't helping. I would hope your Mom doesn't actually hate you but it would appear she is not coping very well and maybe taking things out on you. Maybe you are not bi-polar but (understandably) suffering from depression following your parents break up. Please find an adult you can trust to talk to.

2007-02-09 10:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

if you can't find a school counselor that will keep their mouth shut, then try a school nurse. if that doesn't work- look through the phone book for a number for teen counseling or mental health counseling hot-line- they are confidential and can help you make contact with a doctor and help you get the real help that you need ((hugs)) I hope things work out for you. Please don't give up.

2007-02-09 10:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 0 0

I would be glad to hear from you if you would like to contact me please feel free to. I have had problems similar to yours and made it through fine. I suggest you try talking to your parent and counselor perhaps she/he could bring it up in an understandable way to your Mother.

2007-02-09 10:13:22 · answer #11 · answered by Golden Ivy 7 · 0 0

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