In our egalitarian society, why do women still want marriage more than the average man?

Answer 1

Hi,

It seems like men and women are genetically programmed in a different way.

In nature the female wants a male who can take care of her and her children. She wants a stong man who can have strong offspring with a high chance of survival. Most mammals protect their wifes and offspring, but also have more mates they take care of.

Since a human is just another mammal these basics are programmed in our genetic design to make sure the species survive.

Males however are programmed to compete with other males where the winner gets to mate, again to produce healthy offspring. He also is programmes to have as many offspring as possible with the highest rate of genetic difference as incest would weaken the species. This makes that a male want young female who can produce good offspring.

We humand invented monogomy, but nature protests against this principle. Unconsciously men will always have the desire to other women and the binding thing is what makes them hold back.

For the record...I am not saying that we should all dive into polygamy. I am just explaining why things work the way they work. (At least the way I see it.)

Some people have decided to brake this never ending circle of attracting forces. Some do believe that a diffent way of loving can actually change this preprogrammed way of nature. It's just that it goes against all we have learned and all we have been told over the years. People who have tried it anyway noticed a significant diffence in the way they experience their relationship.

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Answer 2

It's a good theory - on paper. In reality, it's unlikely to work. We've all been conditioned to be ashamed of sex and sexual behavior to the extent that many are just willing to take their chances and do it anyway. Do you "take your chances" when you cross a busy street, knowing full well that you could be run down by a car in any minute? I bet you do. Do you "take your chances" with a girl that you happen to like, knowing full well that she could turn out to be a dirty tramp? I bet you do. Do you "take your chances" when you take a bite of that yummy double cheeseburger, knowing full well that it's bad for your health? Sure you do. It's the same thing with sex. People having been taking risks and chances from day one, why would taking their chances with sex be any different? On a side note, it's kind of naive to think that waiting till marriage to have sex is going to solve all sexual problems and its consequences. Marriage isn't fail-proof. There's this thing called divorce, making mistakes, being fooled etc. You may think that you married the woman you loved and the two of you will share a very special moment by having sex for the first time, in certainty that both of you are willing to spend the rest of your lives together. While many couples do experience such a fairy-tale marriage, other couples aren't as lucky. Be careful that you don't fall into the latter category. The possibility is always there.

Answer 3

You know, to be honest, I don't think they do, except possibly the younger women, who are essentially hard wired to seek security in marriage. As we get older, though, it becomes the men who want to marry and the women who are less interested, because they've noticed that marriage is usually a much better deal for the man.

Answer 4

That is not always true. More women in today's society are waiting later in life, if at all to marry. I personally know of many more men who are more open to marriage than women.

Answer 5

I think that both aren't really serious about marriage.I think a lot of women today don't think they need a man and most men are immature and wimpy and seem to wait for the girls to make the first move. It's definitely worth it to wait for the right person but a lot of what finding that person is about is being the right person and having the right attitudes.

Answer 6

Women are still raised and I think genetically disposed to not be as independant as a man. Women want connection and security (friendships, marriage, etc). Men seem to be more prone to wanting their independence until they find the right girl. I still want my independence and it's frustrating the hell out of my guy.

Answer 7

As a girl, I don't know why other girls do that.
I say there's more to life than just getting married-- there are other things to do that can be accomplished through just plain ol' skill and self-improvement, such as having an enjoyable career, spreading a cause, etc.
I guess that's a pretty sorry answer. =(

Answer 8

It's different for all of us, but mainly---security.
We will be protected financially if he leaves or dies, which is not always the case in a live-in situation.
There is also some stigma still attached to shacking up-especially among bible-belters and older people, so the "ring" makes it OK to them.

Answer 9

Do you have the statistics on that? I want to conquor life with someone, not by myself. All of the good experiences in life are more wonderful if you are sharing them with someone else.

Answer 10

what in the hell is a egalitarian society---if you get time please let us know what your talking about----men want marriage as much as women----but if your a women you don;t want to know that---grow up---- get a life.