My girlfriend will be in her sister-in laws wedding. Needless to say she will be attending the bachlerette party. There may or may not be a stripper there. Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable at the thought of her being in the same room as a male stripper even if its as harmless as a bachlerette party?
2007-02-09 09:40:23 · 40 answers · asked by Jason O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
its fine, dont worry
2007-02-09 09:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well Jason, Turn the table around. If you were going to a bachelor part and there were strippers there you wouldn't think anything of it and check out the stripper. So there may be a male stripper. Do you trust her? You don't even know if there will be a male stripper or not and most of the time girls don't have one. If you are this uncomfortable with it talk to her about it. Maybe she doesn't want to go if there will be a stripper. Why is it OK for men to have strippers and not for women to have them?
2007-02-09 09:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what state you live in but here in Oregon let me tell you something. I have seen parties taped where the strippers didn't know they were being taped and the guy strippers didn't do crap to the ladies. When I watched 3 different videos of female strippers you would not believe the crap I saw! Had I been the bride to be the wedding would have been called off...watching oral things go on and a lot more than that!!!!
2007-02-09 09:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong. It means you are insecure. Actually should make you question the relationship. Come on you are worried she will see another guy possiably nude, and not sure they go that far. So what if she says a guy nude? She is with YOU. Do you ever look at playboy? If you do then you are a hypocrite to complain about this. I'm not saying there is a problem with telling her how you feel. Oh and about the idea that you don't want to share, what are you sharing? What she can't see any men either? This isn't like a friend. This is a guy who may or may not be there and would strip and that would be the last they see of each other.
2007-02-09 09:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the difference in her seeing a stripper vs. you seeing a stripper? When men go to strip clubs it's no big deal, but when a woman see s a stripper it's seen as a big deal. I look at it all the same. It's all harmless unless there is prostitution involved somehow. And even then you should trust the person you are in a relationship with.
2007-02-09 12:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by ~M~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't wrong, just like women aren't wrong for not wanting their boyfriends to be around a stripper. You need to talk to her about how you feel.
Although, rest assured that the male strippers are not at all like the female strippers. It's very comical, actually, and no where near as sexual as female strippers. She'll have some good laughs with her girlfriends, but nothing very raunchy.
2007-02-09 13:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to feel that way, I bet anything if it were the other way around you wouldn't be going. Not all parties like that get strippers. I believe it is a nasty career and wish none of that was around. But it is and it makes a lot of people feel uneasy when really it shouldn't because if you have any decency you wouldn't even consider cheating with one of them. She should understand your feelings and maybe you can compromise with her if there is a stripper there, like showing up after or suggesting other fun.
2007-02-09 13:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by tralw2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you, I would feel the same way if I was in your shoes. All I can say is rest the fact that strippers are not allowed to touch or be touched in sexual ways (eyes only) and his job is to give the soon to be bride as much attention as possible. He probably wouldn't even come close to her. But, don't ask her about him when she comes home...just act like there never was a stripper. Things will go by much smoother then.
2007-02-09 09:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, there is nothing wrong when a bachlerette party has a male stripper, you have to trust her, and they are only doing what they are hired for, to dance. its a same thing for a man bachlor party they have female strippers .
2007-02-09 09:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Jason -
First thing......do you trust her?? If you dont trust her then you
should not be with her and this would not be an issue.
How would she feel if you went to a bachelor party with a stripper? Would she have a cow or does she trust you?
What is good for the gander is good for the goose.
Honestly, most women dont "act" on anything with male strippers. They are just what they are......entertainment and
they we go home to our men, but if you dont trust her......
then you really need to rethink your relationship.
Good luck
2007-02-09 09:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would feel uncomfortable doing the normal bachelerette party traditions: getting absurdly/ blastingly drunk, watching a male stripper, you should not go. Your moral standards are obviously much higher than the majority of people that will be at the party. Skip the party. It is not you. Do not error/sin to conform.Be who you are. If you feel uncomfortable, you can leave or you can skip the party altogether. Don't cave into peer pressure.
2007-02-09 09:46:46 · answer #11 · answered by markbigmanabell 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋