Shes my grandma, and i really want to be there for her in her final days, but i just cant take being yelled at, and sworn at.(both are because of the tumour.) Its her 69th birthday today, and it will most definetly be her last. I want to visit her, but i almost cant stand to see her like that. Are there any suggestions as to what i should do?
2007-02-09 09:37:51 · 6 answers · asked by diamonds_are_forever<3 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I have experience with this. My good friend of 9 years died on October 15th, 2006 from brain cancer. She had three tumors and even an 8 week stay at the Mayo clinic couldn't do anything for her. She only wanted her son, brother, and mother around and was so weak she could not talk. She had been diagnosed in July and was given a year to live. Unfortunately, she went quickly and suffered a great deal. All you can really do is tolerate what they do. You can't really hold a grudge against them becuase they're not in their right state of mind. The tumor has taken their common sense. It sounds like the tumor is affecting the part of the brain that deals in logic, so the left side of the brain, correct? I can't imagine how you must be feeling because she's your relative, but I can empathize from that experience. You should also get a support network together so you can deal with these emotions. It's not going to be easy. You think every day is going to be the last. If you would like to chat, you can email me or add me on your 360. I'm open to talking about it and will listen to you as long as you need me to.
2007-02-09 13:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Proud Muslimaah-Beautiful Islaam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your grandmother. It must be hard seeing her behave that way but you have to keep reminding yourself that it isn't her speaking it is the brain tumor. Go see her bring some flowers and hope she is having a good day. If you don't see her you will only end up regretting not going. Best of luck to you just remember not take what she says to heart. Unfortunately she has a brain tumor that affects her behavior.
2007-02-09 09:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to deal with this. My dad had lung cancer than 6 months later was diagnosed with brain cancer. I was living in Montana at the time and that was 1100 miles from him. I had two children in school. one was a senior and the other a junior. I traveled over 60,000 miles in 8 months. This was hard on my family, but I felt I needed this time with my dad. I would not of traded our time together for anything even though at times, it was hard for me. You only have a little time left with your grandmother.You need to make them memorable and don't forget to take pictures with her. That will be the last time to keep memories for your children to see what a great=great grandmother you had.
2007-02-13 04:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by ifi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband also has brain tumors. He has this lovely personality as well. I know she can be mean and hateful but remember it isn't her talking. Put what she says that is mean to the side and just see her for the grandma you know and love. This is what I have to do with my husband. As long as she isn't aggressive and violent toward you don't worry about it.
2007-02-09 12:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by redwidow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry
to business you should see her
really really have fun with the time you have left with her
tell her you love her
don't regret anything
I never got to say goodbye
2007-02-09 15:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go be with her and understand that she is not herself now.
2007-02-09 13:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jester 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋