My b/f's relationship with his ex, was about 5 weeks long.I was good friends with his ex, unitl they split and we started a relationship.We have been going out for 2 1/2 yrs.Me and his ex stopped being friends, but still talked now and then.My b/f and her continued being friends after they split.I always felt insecure about her because i knew that she still wanted him, just by seeing the texts she would send him. Recently my friends told me they had kissed twice, on 2 different occasions,no alchol invovled.After a couple days of him begging and crying i took him back.He had already stopped talking to her before i found out. Now he has completely erased her,lets me go through his phones and anything.He seems really sorry, and has begged and sworn on his mum and grandma it will never happen again and that it was the biggest mistake of his life. Did i make a mistake taking him back?im still confused,but still want him. please help!
2007-02-09 09:29:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
big mistake
2007-02-09 09:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you have said that you still want him, I don't think you've made any mistake. There's nothing wrong with trying to work out this situation as an adult, and in fact it's quite virtuous.
One thing that bothers me about this is the insecurity you said you had about your boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend. If this was not addressed at some point in your relationship, it definately needs attention this time around. Your insecurity is not unfounded, but depending on how you see the situation, it could be damaging to both of your relationship.
I would advise that he needs to make a decision about the importance of your relationship. If any improvement is to be made between you two, then he needs to reconsider his friendship with his ex-girlfriend, and this could be anything from only talking to her around other people or to completely stop talking to her, whatever you all decide.
Above all, he admitted to his mistake and you have accepted his word. Trust is something that he'll need to rebuild, but in turn you also have to be willing to trust him. No person is without fault, mistakes are made, but you are now in a position where you can forgive him or move on.
Good luck
2007-02-09 09:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by D H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl just go with your heart! If your heart said go for it just do as it says. Love is Love and there is nothing you or I or anyone can do. And just try to put things in the past and let them stay in the past. What counts is the present and future. Just have an open relationship and that should help!
2007-02-09 09:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by florecitarivera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it! There are so many other men out there, and ones that will not disrespect you by going behind your back and lying.
Do you really want him? Do you really want someone that is obviously lying to you? Someone who doesn't care about you because he is in the arms of someone else?
Move on girl and get over him, this guy is not worth your time. Pick yourself up and get your self esteem back and go find yourself a real respectable guy.
2007-02-09 09:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take some time to trust him again. Think about it does he seem sincere? Has he done it in the past? Talk to him about relationships, get his point of view, if there seems to be something there then try trusting him again. If later you find out that he cheated again don't take him back.
2007-02-09 09:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Alexi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so hard to let go abdruptly of someone you are emtionally tied to, when they hurt you. You have been betrayed, and it will be hard to rebuild trust. Are you ready for days of suspicion, third degree questions, and loss of self-esteem? While it is true many make mistakes and learn from them, it is up to you to forgive and forget. I tried it, but he ended up cheating again, and again. Dont loose yourself to forgiveness just to keep a cheating man. Where was his loyalty when he was kissing his ex??
2007-02-09 09:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by friday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u made a huge mistake once you take a guy back after he cheated on you believe me hell do it again no matter how much he said he wont and secondly hell start doing stupid stuff and not listening to you because hell think if he got away with cheating hell get away with anything trust me dump him move on with ur life u dont need it
2007-02-09 09:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both have issues. Why would you log on using an ID like Hotstuff Janelle but worry about your bf cheating on you? Sounds like you both need to worry about each others fidelity.
Chances are he's being 100% honest but you need to identify if you want him because someone else does or because YOU do.
2007-02-09 09:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
feels like the two one in all you the two could desire to enhance up and understand that if there is an activity in somebody else that's no longer your boyfriend or lady pal you're able to no longer be in a relationship. stay single till you discover somebody which you extremely desire to be in a commited relationship with.
2016-10-01 21:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u didn't u followed your heart and u never kno he might be the love of your life and if a boy cries to be with you and swear on his mom and grandma he's deeply in love with you and he doesn't want anyone but you.and if u let him go it might be the biggest mistake in your life just give him that chance
2007-02-09 09:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but once a cheater always a cheater. By taking him back you let him know that what he did to you is ok. He'll keep walking all over you as long as you let him
2007-02-09 09:34:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋