How do I tell someone that I love him when we are just beginning to go out?

Question

I told my friend that I love someone that I am beginning to go out with but I said it by accident. Do I really love him and if I do how do I tell him something this important?

Answer 1

First, love isn't about romance, yes, it is nice to be romantice, but life is not the movies. Love is about tollerance, can you see your self with this person in 5 years? 10 years? If not, it is doubtful that you love him. If you can then think about your goals in life, what about his goals? Are you willing to give up your goals so he can achieve his? How many kids do you want? Does he even want kids? If you are thinking to yourself "hey, hold on we are just dating!" Then you probably don't love him. Enjoy your time with him, but don't expect him to be "the one" There are millions of people on Earth, it may take a while to find your fish.

Answer 2

If you don't know, don't say it. Even if you have a good feeling about it, there is no reason to rush into saying it out loud. A lot of times, our hearts trick us into thinking we love someone, and in the end it was more like lust, or maybe love, but not the kind of love where you are together forever. I would suggest keeping it to yourself until you know for sure. One day you will just feel comfortable saying it. And by then it will probably be less scary for him to hear.

Answer 3

You probably love how you feel when you are with him, and you are really enjoying the relationship. This certainly could progress into love, but it is doubtful that it is serious enough for that kind of talk yet. Give it some time and let the relationship continue to grow.

I am not saying it is impossible to love someone over a short period of time, but you still want to keep that close to yourself for a while.

Answer 4

You don't tell him, because you can't love someone you are just beginning to go out with. How old are you?? Maybe if you buy him a Power Ranger, he'll "love" you too.

Answer 5

Some people would say that's a no-no or that's the sure way to scare him off. Whatever! I did the same thing you did and was like-oops! I had did that before and got dumped. Well, to heck with what people say because the last one I did that to married me. Hey, some people just fall hard and fast-we can't help it.

Answer 6

There is no rush! If you want him to know you feel strongly about him,just say it in a different way,such as "I really enjoy the time I spend with you," or "I'm so glad we met," or something. Why risk scaring him off in the beginning or having him doubt your sincerity, when there's all the time in the world?

Answer 7

If you just started going out with him then I doubt it's love. No offense but it sounds like inexperience. It takes time to love someone. Could be lust or your just in love with the feeling of having someone. Highly doubt it's love but I could be wrong. Hope it helps.

Answer 8

I'd be very wary about saying ILY to someone you just started going out with and if you DO say it to him, he might run the other direction FAST.

Love takes time to grow. Unless you two have known each other all your lives I would stay quiet for a while.

Answer 9

That's a quick way to scare someone off...especially if the relationship is brand new. Infatuation and Love can be easily mistaken.

Answer 10

If you really love him there shouldn't be doubt it might just be nerves about rejection. But if he's a good person you should be open to him and say that you love him and that your not pressureing him to do anything you just want him to know.