im a very shy person. noone ever approaches me to talk to me. im not ugly or anything. alot of people compliment me and say i should be a model... my first (first everything) bf recently broke up with me a couple weeks ago.. we wanted to get married and we dated for over 2 years. i met him on a chat room online.. when i was 15 (im 19 now and in college) but i dont know how to "date" i konw there isnt anyone i like at the moment. partially because i dont know anyone! lol but i want to move on and just see whats out there. i konw a serious relationship isnt for me yet.. i just want to get to know peopel and make friends. i work at starbucks and i meet alot of people everyday(like 100 maybe more) but im just so shy i dont know how to start conversations or anything. i mena i have a great personality but its just so hard to meet peopel and actually make friends... im a nice person and everything.
what do i do?? how do i do it? =[
2007-02-09 09:25:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive een workign for the company for a year and a half. and i realised it has broken me out of my shell it by bit. since we basically HAVE to make conversation or try too. but its nice. alot of "regualrs" come in and i have a half hours long conversations with them but they are usually older people. not anyone around my age.
2007-02-09 09:26:51 · update #1
at work i alrady know everyone so im just a goofball biutt hen it comes to customers in just shy... lol new people im shy around.i dontknow what to say! i would only like to date up to 23 yrs old at the most...
2007-02-09 09:34:15 · update #2
Going for a one-on-one date with someone you barely know can be awkward. That's why you start in groups of men and women who are similar in age. Just talk to them and be yourself. Eventually you will find a few guys who are interested in you or you are interested in them. Participate in the activities that the group sponsors.
Team sports and square dancing clubs for singles can be great opportunities.
2007-02-09 09:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the skills you learned at work and apply them to your personal life.
Go to some events on campus and just start up a conversation. Keep your smile bright and your wits about you. Say Hi or ask them a question about what's happening around you.
You'd be surprised by the amount of people that are just as shy as you are and are only hoping someone will say Hi!
You've just got to start somewhere. The sooner you start the more friends you'll have by the time the weeks over. Good luck!
2007-02-09 09:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mangomum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are at work and the weather is just great, make a comment to your customer about how it stinks to work with the weather so nice, it might lead into more conversation. Or if they look like they are on their way to work(so no big conversation possible)tell them to enjoy their day at the office,or offer them a menu to take back to work,maybe generate extra business as well as more people to try your new lines on. Remember to ask the next day if the menu was received well. Also, take a college course,more people your age and you would have something in common because of the classes.
2007-02-09 09:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all of your questions will be answered with a thorough thought of your circumstances.
You want answers...you want the truth so here it is...
When a Snake searches for food at night or day...it tastes with its' tongue to search down prey or should the prey come into vision.
The Snake strikes with force and squeezes its' prey to death or inject venom and waits for death to succomb and then swallow its' meal.
You are the Mouse lets say and he is the Snake.
How do you know when you have encountered a Snake and not a decent human being that understands you?
Don't go out so much at night when Snakes are on the prowl and not decent humans.
Don't stay in one place too long for the Snake to creep up on you.
Keep moving my friend and that is what dating is all about.
2007-02-17 05:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If nobody is going to talk to you, then they aren't going to be able to ask you to 'date' them ... so I think that you should pick a 'nice young man' who has been 'friendly' and ask him to do something 'fun' with you ... even just for a 'walk in the park.' I ADMIRE YOU for knowing that you are 'too young to think about settling down' and that you just want to 'date different people' for awhile ... so GOOD LUCK. And if the first one says 'NO' don't worry about it ... just keep asking until someone says YES. And while you are doing the 'asking' also leave yourself a 'bit more open' so you'll learn to tell what a young man wants ... because most of them are 'shy' about asking a girl out, too ... so if one 'hears you' asking a guy and he says no, the 'shy one' might just ask you out ... and you can always say 'yes' ...
2007-02-09 09:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, it appears to me that you are putting yourself into a mindstate that says it's bad to be single.
when you think like that, you'll come to hate being single, even though there's nothing wrong with it.
as well, when you're looking for something, it's generally harder to find.
i've never been very gregarious, unless i already felt comfortable around the people i'm talking to. in such a case, no one could even guess at how shy i actually am.
just go on, living life normally. things will come to you instead, eventually. and of course, it doesn't hurt if you smile at handsome guys, and mouth the word "hi"
2007-02-09 09:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 00:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you one thing I feel almost the same way as you and I think the best thing to do is try to find someone you just can get along with and maybe if your lucky it will turn into something more.
2007-02-09 09:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by charliecasey42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sooo happy u r moving on now buddy!!! =}!!
put a profile on yahoo personals and like e-harmony or somethin, go 2 clubs like i told u, guys will come 2 u!!! hope i helped some morgan!!
2007-02-09 13:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by koi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is old to you?? I would take some dates if the guys are up to 30 years old, to get out in the world, dont marry,, go out and have fun, it is up to you to make yourself open up,, take some public speaking classes at the community college,
2007-02-09 09:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋