I am 16 years old, and have been with my boyfriend for about a month, who is also 16. It is an emotionally abusive relationship, that i finally made the decesion to end today. I went over to his house and explain to him how bad he makes me feel, and how im through with him degrading me(especially in front of his friends). I said that it was over and he laughed in my face and said that he loves me and that im not going to leave him. i tried to leave but he blocked the door and said that he bought food in anticipation of me coming. I said i wasn't hungry and we argued over my "hunger" for a minute. He then got upset and smashed the food in my face. He then quickly apologized. he drove me home and kissed me like nothing ever happened, and said that he'll see me tommorow. What just happened? What should i do?
2007-02-09 09:24:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Call the police and tell him that he assaulted you. He kept you from leaving and smashed the food in your face. If that doesn't tell him clearly enough that you are through with him and he continues to bother you, get a restraining order.
No, you will not be jumping the gun or over-reacting. I have seen too many abusive relationships start out with small stuff and end up in blood. He has already stepped over the boundaries of small stuff. He restrained and assaulted you.
Call the police and let them tell him that he will NOT see you tomorrow!
2007-02-09 09:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What just happened is that you were abused by your abusive boyfriend. Stay away from him. Tell your parents that you broke up with him because he treated you badly but you're afraid he will keep trying to see you. If he approaches you at school, get away from him and involve the school authorities if he won't leave you alone. If he comes to your house, lock the door and don't let him in. I know this sounds like an overreaction but you have to understand how quickly emotional abuse can escalate to physical violence. Stay firm and let your family and friends help you. I promise you that if you tell your family that you're scared and need help they will be on your side. You are too precious to let this creep treat you badly and I'm glad you recognize that.
2007-02-09 17:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to an adult you trust about this...both for emotional support and also for help in taking further steps to keep your ex-boyfriend out of your life.
From now on, STAY AWAY FROM HIM. Do not go over to his house again, and do not take his phone calls. It sounds like his verbal abuse is starting to escalate into physical abuse (the "smashing food in your face"). You may have to report him to the police and/or get a restraining order against him if he still won't accept your breaking up with him and keeps trying to see you.
2007-02-09 17:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by marisalwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like something I went through at about the same age. Whatever you do, I hope you know, it will never get better, only worse. Boys like that never grow up, they are controlling and they are possessive. I would suggest telling someone, like a parent or teacher if you go to the same school. Don't stay with him, whatever you do. And be careful with how you let him down (preferably not in person) because you don't know what hes capable of.
2007-02-09 17:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom or older sibling about it. This may be a bit too much for you to take on by yourself. He may come from an abusive family and next time instead of smashing food in your face, it may be something worse. Be careful.
2007-02-09 17:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by stuckondaeastcoast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your parents, girl. Or at least another adult you can trust, like a teacher or therapist. This is serious stuff, and he is abusing you. Call the cops on this little jerk next time he wants to play big-man and see how quickly he cries. I'm half tempted to ask you for his address....
Find out if your school has peer counselors... they're pretty great to have around.
2007-02-09 17:28:52 · answer #6 · answered by heather j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's in denial BIG TIME.You've made your stand.Stick with it!He has issues you can't help him with.If he bugs you tell someone and have something done about it.Meanwhile stay away from him,don't talk on the phone or computer but try to save what ever comes through(answering machine,voice mail - same thing,e-mails, etc).Destroy nothing.You may need the evidence later.
2007-02-09 17:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by gotabedifferent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents. Do not be alone with him anymore. This is extremely abusive behavior that will escalate into far worse. Seriously DO NOT BE ALONE WITH HIM ANYMORE. Keep friends with you and if you have to seek out the help of authorities.
2007-02-09 17:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you even have to ask??? You're only 16, this shouldnt' be an issue. Don't ever talk to the bastard again and if he tries anything with you, kick him in the balls. What a jerk.
2007-02-09 17:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't go back. you can't let a boy disrespect you like that. Even if he says he's sorry and he means it don't go back.
If it happens a first there's a 90% chance that it will happen again.
If you don't get out now later you won't be able to.
2007-02-09 17:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by cass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋