Help, bullies!?

Question

My little brother (5th grade, 10 years old) is being bullied by his classmates who seem to be making fun at everything about him, from the attention he gets from teachers, to his religion and even his friends. He doesn't have friends in his class because he says the bullies bully anybody who plays with him, they make random people swear at him because he's not "cool" enough to put people down or swear like the other kids. Also, we don't have cable so we don't watch the shows everybody watches, and we don't go to all the cool places or buy expensive toys because we can't afford to. I did not know about this until today when my brother came home in tears and he never cries or complains. he won't complain to his teacher because the bullies called him a snitch and hit him with snowballs the last time he tried. He the kind who wont watch others being bullied,he'd try to save younger kids or girls being bullied. now they tease him and say he's friends with babies and has girlfriends. plshelp

Answer 1

These bullies are boys who are very insecure. That's how bullies are. As for not being "cool" bullies only THINK they're cool. Your brother should be proud he doesn't swear, it makes him a good person.

You tell him for me that everything those bullies say to him are because they are jealous of him. Bullies won't admit such things, but they ARE jealous. It can be a secret you and your brother share. As for cable and cool clothes, when young, Cindy Crawford - I THINK it was her -- some super model -- MADE all her own clothes. The famous Dr. Phil was homeless for a while, and slept on bare floors with his siblings when they weren't homeless, because they couldn't afford beds, and many, many other famous or well-respected people had a humble start in life.

Your brother sounds like a cool kid to me. Anyone who is willing to protect younger, more vulnerable kids is the type of person who grows up well-rounded, and well-liked. Dependable. Bullies just land in jail...

You tell your brother for me that bullies are bullies cause they have no self-esteem... that they make themselves feel BIG by making fun of others.

And I know this is hard -- but tell him to ignore what the bullies say and do. Once he stops reacting to their taunts, they'll most likely get bored and move on.

As for cable, toys, clothes, those are just THINGS. Toys fall apart and are forgotten, most of the shows on cable suck, and designer clothes are still just clothes. Shop at Wamart or Target. You'd be surprised at all the Hollywood stars who shop Target.

And do something nice with your brother when possible. Have your mom give you and him money for chores you do and save up for something cool, like tickets to a live sports event; NASCAR, hockey, basketball, football -- something your brother would love. Live sports events are a blast. WAY more fun than on TV. Just make sure you EARN the money... earned fun is more satisfactory than if it's just given to you.

I hope this helps. Your brother seems like the type who will do well in life as he gets older.

Answer 2

If theres anything I cant stand, is a bully. I feel so sorry for your little brother. I would have your mom secretly call the school and complain big time. Dont give names because if the kids find out it was your brothers mom, then they'll let him have it even more. Tell him for me that these kids that are picking on him are just selfish, immature little brats and he'll be the one to end up a good person in the long run if he tries not to let it bother him. He already sounds like a nice kid,.... I hope these punks dont ruin him.

Answer 3

Your mom needs to go and talk not only just the teachers but also those in the school's office because if the teacher's are not doing anything about it I would be all over the school about something like that.

And for your brother tell him that what comes around goes around. The only reason they might be doing this is because they don't get enough attention from their mom and dad at home so they do that at school because they know everyone is looking at them.

Tell your brother to keep his head up .

Answer 4

it takes position plenty out of each 5 student there is a million who's getting bullied in united statesa.it really is a terrible subject and persons that do it are defined as susceptible because they bully to construct an exquisite good charcter or to sense more suitable which does not even make sense quite everyone seems aiming to placed an offical regulation to bullying it occurred in few international locations yet now presently countless the international locations international huge do not have an valid rule adversarial to bullying it has many victims that died because of it which makes it even extra terrible they died by technique of suicide or bully attacks and bullying causes deprission and suicidal innovations and self damage (which may lead on to lack of existence in case you accedently hit a nerve) that is what i actually comprehend

Answer 5

I was picked on when I was in 4th and 5th grade because of my Chinese name... I think the reason for that was because I was making so big a deal out of it and acting all... If I hadn't made such a big deal about how weird my name sounded, the other kids wouldn't have, either. If he acts more confident, the kids will stop picking on him... a bully's purpose is to make someone else feel bad... you can't do that easily to a kid with a high self-esteem, so the bully will just give up.

Answer 6

You need to get your parents involved. Contact the school counselor or the principal. This has to stop. Most states have a law against bullying in school and the school has to follow this law. Also, tell him to stand up to them. Not in a mean way but by making adults aware of what is happening. Have him tell the name of the main bullies and have the school or your parents contact them. If this continues, you can file a report with the police and file a restraining order.

By using the counselor, have him/her talk to the kids and let them know he does not want them in trouble but he wants them to stop. He/She can talk to the students and give them the opportunity to stop. If they don't, then follow the school guidelines regarding bullies. What is happening is wrong and will follow your brother for the rest of his life if he doesn't do anything. Help empower him against these bullies by getting help.

Answer 7

There needs to be zero tolerance when it comes to bullying. Your brother is literally being tortured everyday. As his older sibling you need to sit down with your parents and let them know what is going on. Perhaps your parents and the school officials can meet with the other kids parents to work this out. It's not okay for your brother to be treated this way. For him to hold it all inside isn't okay..he is being abused...I am sure that the school has policies for dealing with this sort of thing and he won't be a snitch!!! He is merely seeking help..

Don't let this slide..it's not okay.

Answer 8

Tell your brother to check out the website Bullystoppers.com It has lots of tips and advice. My advice is tell an adult. Keep telling until something is done. No-one deserves this treatment and your school has a responsibility to be zero tolerant to bullies.
Keep talking to your brother and reassure him that it is not his fault. Also why don't you see if there are any self defense classes around that your brother can join this will increase his confidence and self esteem.

Answer 9

My son is a bully, but also he can make that same complaint about how kids treat him and make fun of him.
In his case he gets treated how he treats others.

Sometimes though the problem can be shyness as I experienced.

In both cases the kids need to be taught how to be assertive without being passive or aggressive.

It sounds like you are just the person to teach him that.
Roleplay with him.

Answer 10

just tell him to try to ignore them. people can be so mean sometimes. he needs to talk to his teacher or principal for help with this. that is what they are there for. tell him that he needs to keep his head up high and continue to be the great person that he is. also that they are not worth his time and energy. if he ignores them, they will go away. they are only doing this because they know they will get attention from him. hope this helps. good luck.