I'm going out with this really nice guy who asked me out at the last clubnight. Before he was all over my friendbut when he asked her out she said no. Anyway she's in all of his classes and im in none of his classes so everytime i see him... my friends there having a laugh with him. I didn't mind. Then she goes around asking him for hugs RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME. thats when i got worried.
he's always busy but when he isnt then we sumetimes have a lil time to spend together. we haven't pulled but we were so close! but i still have a feeling that my friend is stealing him and shes not even single! what do i do?
2007-02-09 09:03:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i suppose shes not really a "friend" anymore lol!
i REALLY like him so i dont want to dump him! X
2007-02-09 09:10:00 · update #1
lol "mice & men" is what i'm reading right now!
anyway on wednesday we were in the dark on the sofa & he was really clingy! so in classes & lunch hes always with my "friend" and at night when he isnt busy hes with me.. i'm sooo cunfused! well his b-days soon so im getting him a pressie :D
2007-02-09 09:13:10 · update #2
...my "friend" hooked us up
2007-02-09 09:15:33 · update #3
well i go to a boarding school and every month or so theres a disco in the music hall.. we kissed.. hands on hips.. hugged... slow dance etc.. so i wasnt in a chavvy nightclub...
2007-02-09 09:28:05 · update #4
sorry theres quite a bit to read! X
2007-02-10 03:37:04 · update #5
Well if this guy is worth anything he will push your bimbo friend away. Unless he is a slag himself!
2007-02-09 09:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront your "friend"
Tell her exactly what's bothering you, and closely study her responce. If you feel any hostility or sarcasm you should consider if she has other motives besides being "Just friends" with your significant other, at that point you can evaluate her and what your friendship really means to her. A good friend would explain it's just a misunderstanding. but you judge her according to her personality.
And then you talk to your boyfriend. Make it clear you want an honest answer, and ask him what he feels about you, and then what he feels about that girl. Old crushes tend to last a long time, wether you want to admit it or not. And it could be that he still likes her, while still liking you, and enjoys the opportunity to hug her when he can. Take close watch if he studders or seems uncertain on how to answer. Tell him what you assume, and once you figure out his position you can determine what's best for your life.
If he, however, is loyal to you, and you feel it, Stop minding him talking to other people. If your trust in him comes into question constantly, consider more communication, but don't feel the need to restrict him to just you. There's always never enough time to spend someone you really like. That's why you got to keep some relationships alive long enough to get lucky.
Best of luck :)
2007-02-09 17:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by psychologic_al 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A) Asked you out at a club? May be clue number one. B) He was all over your friend first and she said no? Can we say disturbing? I hate to say it but honey your a back up. It might hurt to think of it like that but he asked you out only AFTER your friend said no? Don't you think that's a little strange? To me that doesn't say "nice guy" it says sleeze bag. Also, your "friend" sounds like no friend at all if she is making an effort to flirt with him right in front of you. Seems that she is making a point to remind you that he went for her first and you second. This does not make for a good start to the relationship. If you feel that he is worth the effort you need to talk to him, alone. Tell him how it makes you feel when he hugs her. Then talk to her and tell her that you feel her actions towards your boyfriend are inappropriate. Remind her that she did in fact turn him down and she does in fact have her own man. But before you do any of this you need to sit down and really think about the foundation of your relationship and if it will be something that you feel will last. If yes, take above advice. If no, dump both him and her. Find a man who will choose you over every other girl in the room not as a "back up" and find someone who you can actually call a friend not someone who will pull the stunts she is pulling.
2007-02-09 17:19:48 · answer #3 · answered by lifesajourney 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get some girl power, Dump this guy now. Have a bath with candles etc.. bring in a pen and paper and write down all the qualities you would like a guy to have kind of like a checklist. I bet this guy doesn't add up. next school day get all dolled up and just brush him off all day you wont believe how good it feels.
2007-02-09 17:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by BunnyBond 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well get thhis he is a player that happens first he is interested in someone just cause of outside looks but if they dont answer in a good way at first they go to the next person that friend you have needs a slap in the face
2007-02-09 17:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's some harsh truths, honey:
-He's just not that into you. He'd rather date your friend, and you're just the consolation prize.
-Your friend isn't your friend, if she'd flirt with the guy you like, and she doesn't have much integrity, if she'd flirt with another guy when she already has a boyfriend.
-You need to dump both of them, find some more honest people to hang out with, and focus on building your self-esteem.
Sorry, it's harsh, but it's true.
2007-02-09 17:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well first of all if he asked her out and she said no then maybe hes all like ok "if she doesnt want to hook it up then ill go with her friend." so maybe you should really find out wats goin on, dont let your jelousy get in the way cuz then ur feelings could be all wrong.but then he may have a thing for your friend still and maybe he thinks the only way to get to her is to hook it up with you.
2007-02-09 17:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by DANiiA D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get yourself a new friend if she's doing that to you, then find a man that wants you for being yourself & not because you are a mate to someone he likes. You deserve more.
2007-02-09 17:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by ATP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have all the time in the world! Chill! It all works out in the end.
2007-02-09 17:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by interested_party 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When she asks for a hug; you hug her. Then see what she says. If this fails ask him what he was doing back there!!!
2007-02-09 17:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by c.w 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋