i started speaking to a man online last week. after a few conversations we discovered we have a lot in common and we hit it off pretty well. i found out that he told me a different last name, he had reason such as the fact that he is an emergency responder and he is supposed to keep his personal info private (i dont know if thats true so whatever) and that he didnt know me very well so he was trying to keep it private. so my friends became very weary of him and looked him up online. a friend found info suggesting that he was married. the topper a friend of mine called the number listed and got the message that "they" were not home. all signs point to married! when i confronted him on this he appologized profusly(sp) and claimed that he had told women this in the past and had bad luck so he wanted to hide it and get to know me better. he claimed that he is going thru a divorce and he lives in a different home. both stories are possible. what should i do?
2007-02-09 08:53:08 · 29 answers · asked by The Fabulous Miss S. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
see everyone always wants to see the negative. what it he is telling the truth?
2007-02-09 12:59:59 · update #1
My Opion is give him a change if u think u like him! My email is CellPhoneDiva_22@yahoo.com please email me
2007-02-09 08:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boot him. My husband was ending his marriage when I met him, but he was honest from the start. The last name thing I would buy if for no other reason than maybe he was skeptical, but lying about the marriage thing, not good. If he is keeping you from her, there is a reason. Way too many men out there to start off with a liar. Have fun dating and take the time to find the right man, he is out there, no matter what the talk shows say!! Really, better to have 1 date a year, then find Mr Right, than to get hurt by Mr Wrong. Good Luck!!
2007-02-09 17:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by jenn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOOT..i always try to believe in my gut feeling. If you had to look him up to find all this info....i don't think it's a person worth knowing. Plus I feel if you give him a chance, you will always wonder what ELSE he could be hiding. "Going thru a divorce" sounds like an excuse....he's twisting the words...he's NOT divorced yet. Be careful and leave before you find out that YOU are the 3rd person and his wife just found out that you are breaking up her family. You deserve someone honest, and SINGLE! goodluck!
2007-02-09 17:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boot
The getting to know you process is very important and when people start misleading or lying right of the bat then whay kind of relationship is that going to lead to? One with a lyer/cheater/sneak.
When he is truly single and avail. he will be able to tell a woman the whole story right off.
If "they" are broken up do you think she would keep that message on the machine? I highly doubt it.
You know the answer so why go there. A nice guy will come along that doenst need to lie to you.
2007-02-09 17:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Paradox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) NEVER talk to a guy you don't know that's married!
2) I think you should give him the boot because seriously, who would not know how many sick guys there are out there!
3)Tell him off by telling him that you were "married" and are "getting married" now. OR that you are moving to Europe in like a few weeks so you are getting rid of your computer. . . . It worked for me!
2007-02-09 17:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by Packer Fan 101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I vote boot too.
I'm separated from my wife, whom I love and want to reconcile with. In my opinion, this guys shouldn't be out playing the field until his divorce is final - but even if you don't agree with that (which is anyone's right to have an opinion), what is definitely out of bounds is withholding this kind of important information.
In my book, that's not being careful - that's being deceitful. And that's no way to build a foundation for a real and honest relationship.
Best to you.
2007-02-09 16:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's many more out there...don't waste your time with this one. Who's to say he's telling you the truth about anything, especially now that you've already caught him in a lie. Don't get yourself wrapped up in any kind of divorce situation. Whether they are or not, it could get really ugly. I was in the same situation years ago and the woman ended up going psycho calling me up in the middle of the night from his cell phone (which she was hiding in his car to use it) and threatening me and my son's life. Not to say that this would happen, but it does happen. Good luck!
2007-02-09 17:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People can say anything online..that's why it's not always safe to meet from online.. If he's just going through a divorce..do you really want to get involved w/someone who has those problems? If it was me..and I really was interested in this guy..and found out he was still married..I wouldn't get involved at all. You don't really know for sure if he's really going to get divorced..that's just what he said.. Look for someone who is for sure..single. =)
2007-02-09 17:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by kcgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for the hills, sister! All signs point to this guy being a first class creep!
This is guy is absolutely married, and has all intentions of staying that way. If you want to be the other woman and lose all self-respect, then keep talking to him!
Please don't sell yourself short! There are plenty of NICE guys out there who you don't have to wonder if their lying to you all the time!
2007-02-09 16:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by I See You 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a boot in the gluteus maximus! If he lied to you about something as major as being a married man, he'll lie about other things too.
You deserve someone who's honest--someone you can TRUST--and this guy is so not it!
2007-02-09 16:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by marisalwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's only been a week, you're not really losing anything in WALKING AWAY from this guy! All signs point to trouble. Who cares if he's married/divorced...the point is, he isn't single and he isn't being honest with you. You deserve better hon!
2007-02-09 16:59:21 · answer #11 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋