Do you think its cheating?

Question

A little while back i logged on to my fiance's myspace account. I read a message on there from a close guy friend of hers saying he wouldnt tell anyone about him spending the night at her dorm room. I also read messages from him to her saying he missed her alot and stuff like that. I confronted her about this and she said that it didnt happen and she doesnt know what im talking about, it must have been a joke or something. I honestly dont know what to think. Am i crazy for thinking that she might have cheated on me?

Also, what should i do about this situation? If i already confronted her i cant tell if shes lying or not.

Answer 1

I would keep it in mind. She may not have been cheating. He could be trying to break you two up by sending her a message like that. I would keep your eyes open though. If anything more suspicious pops up, make a more firm decision on what to do.

Answer 2

This is a tough one....
First off,
You already don't trust her cause if you did you wouldn't be looking on her personal acct with out her permission.
As for the spending the night part, you didn't say how long ago or even if you were engaged at that point. It's a hard call to make, and unfortunately only you can make it.

Second
You have to believe in your heart that she's telling the truth and nothing happened. If you can't do that then you really shouldn't be wasting any more time on this relationship. You're never going to trust her if you can't now.


Good luck~

Answer 3

Since you have already confronted her and she is denying it, there is a good chance she cheated. If he had stayed at her place and nothing happened she probably would have come clean, saying that she didn't tell you because she didn't want you to be jealous. Honesty is everything. You need to tell her that if she can't be honest with you, you'll leave her. That may be enough to make her fess up. Then you can decide if you want to stay with her. If she will not be honest you should leave her. Life is what you make it.

Answer 4

talk to her guy friend that left her those messages... and if they both dont admit to it then if you feel u should break up with her cuz you cant trust her... then do so... but maybe she aint lying.... (tho u have proof) and then just put this behind you (but dont forget about it) and if something else comes up that makes you think she might be cheating then totally do something about it. it can be just one big missunderstanding or maybe its not. Good Luck i hope the best for you.

Answer 5

confront the guy...more than likely she is lying because why else would he be sending her messages like that knowing that she just reads them it doesnt make any sense that it would have been a joke

Answer 6

Message him and see what he says. But the damage has been done whether she has or not. Because trust has been broken either way its gonna be difficult for you 2 to go on.good luck

Answer 7

Did she post a remark to the comment from the guy? Did she get angry at the other boy and clear it up? I would be cautious, something seems fishy there.

Answer 8

Well, she's obviously not the faithful one. Find someone new, a marriage with her would just be full of problems and mistrust.

Answer 9

if you feel in your gut that something is going,then guess what.it is.i was told the same thing by my soon to be ex hubby,i was crazy, nothing going on, he loves me to much to hurt me like that.always go with your gut,i did and it was going on while i thought he was working.so now who's the crazy one,not me anymore.always go with your instinct.always..

Answer 10

you have proof and then you have her word which one do you consider more valuable...check up on this guy and get the whole story or you could end up making a big mistake