tonight is mine and my finacee's bachelor/bachelorette party. He is having strippers and though no one really told me till last night i kind of knew cause what bachelor party has no strippers.
He has never given me a reason not to trust him but the fact that there will be stripper t*ts all up on him just disgusts me and i cant get over it!!! His brother is throwing it for him cause he's the best man and all his friends come over and talk about it and are all stoked about it..WHY? what can they give him that i cant?
ive been mad at him and told him how it really just bugs they will be there but after he says "FINE I WONT GO" i feel like a ***** and just end up saying sorry to him for bein so b*tchy about it!
how do i get over the fact? i cant seem to calm myself over this and its really starting to affect me.
HELP! ((and no smart ass comments please))
i know im bein a ***** about it and its never really botheres me before but for some reason its killing me this time around!
2007-02-09 08:50:03 · 8 answers · asked by AC 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is normal to be upset and jealous when it comes to the dreaded bachelor parties. You like every other woman has heard about these parties and strippers. You are told how out of hand they can get and even though you trust your guy you do not trust the stripper or the person stuffing money into her g-string telling her to give him a lap dance.
I understand maybe to well because my soon to be hubby will be attending his soon. As much as I know there will be a stripper there I do not want her there. I have told my fiancee that I trust him and the only thing I request is for him to respect me that night the same way that he has the last three years of our relationship. Your fiancee respects you too..remind yourself that in 20 years that this will not matter so why worry so much about it now...life is too short! Good luck and Congrats!
2007-02-10 15:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont blame you. He has a choice, to not go or to go and break your heart. And it will break your heart! Alot of men are now considering there partners thoughts and our hearts a little more theses days - they dont want to loose us! Maybe suggest that he do something else like a dinner party with the boys, spend the day playing golf or at a bar having lots and lots of drinks or go to the races, but no strippers. The problem is when men are with strippers most of the time they egg each other on to do more, like have sex and touch etc, not nice to hear but very very true. If he says he wont go, say good, what will you be doing then. Dont feel bad, because he knows exactley what goes on a a party with strippers. It will play on your mind for what seems like forever. Sorry...
Congradulations and Good Luck with your Wedding. xxx
2007-02-09 11:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he didn't want strippers then he would have told his brother not to hire them. Either that or he's not old or mature enough to speak his mind. Either way you're out of luck and you just have to trust him. As for the strippers being all over him and what they can give him that you can't???? Nothing...but that's the whole point! If he wanted a stripper for a wife he would be marrying one. But he's marrying YOU. Some men get off on a stripper wife, you'res obviously doesn't. Worry less about what he's doing and enjoy your own party.
2007-02-09 08:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by digdowndeepnseattle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 19:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just let him go you gotta trust him you guys are getting married i am very sure he will be thinking about you all while he's there its just a guy thing to have a bachelor party with strippers doesn't mean he dont love you
2007-02-09 09:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a product of your societal/religious upbringing. It is something you will have to deal with yourself. And what can they give him that you can't??? Variety. thos b**bs are different from yours. Not bigger, better, smaller, cuter or anything else. They are different. It is a biological fact that men need variety. There are about 12,000 topless bars in the US. There is one review for women, chippendales, and it has to go on the road just to survive. There is nothing you can do about it except make yourself crazy or drive him away. Good luck.
2007-02-09 08:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin, I'm not sure but if you figure it out please share some knowledge. People keep saying don't worry about it, but for some people how can you not? I don't care about their breasts, it's the nasty loose vagina's their putting all over him that worries me. Eww.. where have they been? My friend just got married and her husband's strippers told him they'd have sex and do physical things with EVERYONE, for the right price. My fiance doesn't want a stripper, bless his heart he wants to go racing, but his best man is a stupid $%^ and will probably never listen to him!!
2007-02-09 09:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by LiveInLove14 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
LOL..Of course all the guys are like..oh just let him go.. Seriously..if he loves you and respects you..he should care about your feelings and not want to upset you... Did you ask him if it was okay to have male naked strippers all over you?
2007-02-09 09:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by kcgurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋