I dated a guy 3 years ago. We've been broken up for over a year now. I've dated 1 other guy, when that ended I got an email from my first boyfriends best friend (whom I had already known and talked to before/after the relationship) wondering how I was doing and such, we've been talking again for a few weeks and today he asked me if I'd come visit him and his friends (who I had also known and been friends with. keep in mind he lives 5 hours away) he then proceeded to tell me that he wanted to take me out on a date, and told me that he had already asked my ex BF if that would be ok. I just think its kind of odd for me to talk to, let alone go to a different city to see my ex boyfriends best friend(and other friends). Advice, questions, comment, concerns are all appreciated. I'm so confused right now...Would you go? Would it feel weird.
2007-02-09 08:33:28 · 7 answers · asked by sarajanicew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My ex, also is getting married, there is absolutely NO feelings there what-so-ever. I'll always care about him. He was my first love and if the b*tch he's with now hurts him/uses him I'll kill her. But keep that in mind
2007-02-09 08:34:37 · update #1
I don't think there's any societal reason why you shouldn't be able to date your ex's best friend. It's been done plenty of times before, trust me. It can be done without any hurt feelings, and I think the guy who's interested in you is going about it the right way. Besides, if your ex is getting married, he would probably appreciate the fact that his best friend and ex GF got together. Then he could have you both around and you 2 wouldn't have to worry aout the issues that you broke up over.
There is one person who may take offense to this. Your ex's fiance is probably not going to feel comfortable with her husband's ex-main squeeze so handy. Not that you and your ex would do anyhting improper, but the situation is a threat to her security. Since it sounds like you already don't like her, tensions could get worse.
But that's really not your concern. You are available to a guy who sounds like he might be a good match. It might not keep this whole group together, but if he's really good for you why shouldn't you see how it works? Unless of course you don't like him.
However, it sounds like you still have great affection for your ex b/c you're willing to protect him. You said there are no feelings there, but you also told us to keep in mind that you don't want him hurt. Does that mean that deep down inside you haven't really let go? Only you can determine that. But I could see that as a factor in your hesitation to date this other guy.
So ask yourself if you'd feel awkward hanging out with your new beau and your ex and his wife. That's right, WIFE. Not that she's the issue, but there is a lot of gravity to that word, isn't there? If you would feel awkward is it b/c the ex will be there? If so, why? He's a guy you once dated, you care for him and you like him still. Why wouldn't you want to still be friends?
2007-02-09 09:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is kinda weird that your ex's friend is into you... but as long as everyone is on the same page about it, and everyone is comfortable, there shouldn't be a problem... but remember that in the future, if you were to stay with ur ex's BEST FRIEND, certainly there are chances of seeing your ex and his new squeeze, which may create some issues with the new guy.. if it were me, i'd get out of that entire circle of people all together... date someone entirely new and fun and exciting!!! good luck hun!
2007-02-09 08:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's all right to date your ex's best friend - your ex has given his blessing and has moved on to another relationship. The question is, will YOU feel okay with it? Do you like this new guy? You will probably feel awkward when you all get together - ask yourself if that is something you can overcome, or will you always think of this guy as your ex's best friend?
2007-02-09 08:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't state your age. That would have alot to do with it. If you feel you would like to go, don't go alone. Travel with a few friend's. Already know where you will be staying and how long when you get there. If things do not go as expected be prepared to leave at anytime. Also remember...that now your ex-boyfriend is with someone else it is only his business how he lets her treat him.
2007-02-09 08:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by beebee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 00:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-09 08:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm go?
2007-02-09 08:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by person who cares 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋