i really like this guy i work with. i thought we were hitting it off until he called me and told me that he and his baby's mama were working things out. then about 2 weeks later, i asked him what he was getting fro VDay and he said not a d*mn thing. last night i finally came out and asked if they were together, and he said no that he wants to have something special with me. i trust him, which is a big deal since i've been hurt so many times. i mean, it's not like he lead me on about her...he did tell me. i mean, should i see what happens or what should i do?
2007-02-09 08:06:44 · 15 answers · asked by trisha_r_c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't believe that don't date co-worker crap...met my girl at work, worked together for a couple years and have been going out over 6 now...follow your heart and give the guy a chance
2007-02-09 08:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether the guy is worth it or not... you prolly want to find out what happened with him and the other girl first.... that might aid in your decision... I can't judge the guy... but I can say that if you trust the guy then you are pretty far along... but also... if this guy ends up hurting you.. it may take some time to get back to where you are now... everybody has an opportunity to hurt someone around them... sometimes its intentional, other times it isn't...
the work situation puts a little added stress on the relationship... but a large majority of people find their spouses through their work... usually have a lot in common when you work with someone.. .anyways... i wouldn't jump into anything 'serious'... try a little dinner for Vday.. but I beg you.. don't do more than that for now... baby mama is an issue that you need to find out about.. and then figure if things can work from there.
good luck
2007-02-09 16:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by teche16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he's the type of guy you should be trusting all that much. If he's just getting over his relationship with his "baby's mama" then you should stay clear. People get together for the sake of the kids all the time so I can see him going back to her. Don't let yourself get hurt with this risky situation again.
2007-02-09 20:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be attracted to guys who hurt you. You say you have been hurt many times before. This is just a bad situation waiting to happen. He has feelings for baby's mom, no wait, for you. Um, I bet this flipping back and forth will continue. Plus, why isn't he with his baby's mom? Does he support his child? This man has ties with someone who had his baby. Does this mean anything to you? Look at his history, that is the kind of person he is, with or without you. He will not change. Put yourself in his baby's mom's shoes. Would you like to be treated that way? Next time fall in love with a guy who doesn't come with attachments.
2007-02-09 16:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by Get it Together 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes he did tell you about his babys mama but do you really want to be a rebound if he cared about you in the start than you would have been with him. That is going to start alot of mixed feelings b/c you are his second choice not first. Good luck
2007-02-09 16:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run run away as fast you can. This guy blows hot and cold by the day and worse he has "baby mama drama" - who needs that crap. He will go back and forth between the 2 of you as long as you tolerate his behind.
2007-02-09 16:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do like him and you think you can trust him. Then go for it. Otherwise your going to regret it in the future and you will hate yourself for that. So take a risk. It may turn out to be something really special like he said.
2007-02-09 16:12:19 · answer #7 · answered by superfreak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should give a try you never will know what happens unless you try. The only way that you will know is if you put yourself out there. Good luck and Best wishes
2007-02-09 16:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by Daigsmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should even be worried about this dude your gonna be in more drama wit his baby moms because maybe they are still trying to work it out
2007-02-09 16:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by lilsienna1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has a baby mama do u think she will let him go for real??
2007-02-09 16:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by Make Love Not War! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋