How do I help myself?

Question

I am an 18 yr old girl who has no idea what to do with my life. I know I love to travel (international), Love animals and Japan. Any job ideas? But the other part is I am very negative, I get depressed and I am a very angry person. and it's starting to get really bad. What should I do? I don't want to fail in life. I'm just ready to give up.

Answer 1

First of all, you may want to consult a doctor about your depression and possibly get medication to control it. There's no shame in that. Also, try to think positively about what is GOOD in your life and what your strengths are. Do you have a loving family? Do you have good friends? You can control your mindset and change it to think positively. And you're young!! You have a lot of time to decide what you want to do with your life. You will know when the time is right. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well don't give up. I think you probably are just frustrated because you are uncertain about where your life is going, but this is not something that you should beat yourself up over. You are 18 years old, do you realize that there are adults much older than you going thru the same thing and they have families and other responsibilities to worry about. You know what you love, so why not research jobs that will allow you to travel maybe doing business or working(say in Japan), or jobs where you can work with animals (vets, trainer, humane society, animal rights groups) or any number of options are out there. You are at the exploratory stage in life where you should be trying out new things to see what brings you the most fulfillment. To keep you occupied you could enroll in school under General Studies for now, to get the basic courses out the way and then you could maybe talk to a career coach to discuss possible career paths that would be best for you. So don't give up the fun is really just beginning. Also minor attitude adjustments need to be made to your outlook on life, smile more, the sun is shining, you have breath in your body and you have freedom to do, go and be anything you CHOOSE, what more can you ask for. Just think about your situation and KNOW that alot of people are much in a worse situations than you. You have got to learn to count your blessings and be thankful for what you have, not what you don't have. If you are finding that you are depressed or negative even when you don't want to be, you might want to consider seeing a doctor and letting them know, because you could need medicine, but I think once you find the direction you want to be headed, you will be ok. All the best.

Answer 3

Hi Ya
First thing you need to do is think more highly of yourself, your taking the steps by addressing your situation.I hope a few ideas might help,a child nanny today loads of rich people want nannies willing to travel a lot,a steward on a cruise liner,the way i would go is the merchant navy.It's a great life see the world and get paid for it,by the time your 25(time goes quick)you should have good certificates.You can sign off a ship almost any port in the world for as long as you like,at your age the worlds your oyster,i hope things work out for you.

Answer 4

Network. Get out and talk to people and see what they are doing in life. Go to a hospital and talk to some staff to see if that would be something you would like to do. Go to a Vet clinic and talk to the staff there too. You just have to get out and meet people. Do you want to go to college? Find a community college and enroll. Forget the major universities! They spend too much money on recreation than they do on education. Community college's concentrate on EDUCATION not girls gone wild. If college is not your thing, then go to a Technical school and get a trade. There are options.

About your issue of anger and depression. You are going to have to seek help for that issue. If you feel that it is burdening your life then you should go ahead and seek help.

I wish you the best.

Answer 5

maybe a tour guide.Or a travel tv guide.you can travel and work at the same time if you want.start planning for everyday,month and year.make a long term plan.Attitude:You can buy a book good enough to be your guidebook everyday.Maybe a quotesbook or a selfhelp book.

if you are angry don't try shouting.When you feel the heat rising,try to do breath/relaxing movements in your body.Clear your mind.think of the consequence if you become angry
http://positivequotes.blogspot.com/
find quotes on website,maybe in ur case planning,anger,depress
http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_anger.html
http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html
http://www.angermgmt.com/angertoolkit.asp

Answer 6

This is going to sound over-simplistic..but WATCH THE SHOW "KUNG FU" look it up, its at best buy, starring David Carridine. It will change your life! Heres a quote from it.



Deal with evil from strength, but affirm the good in man through trust. In this way, we are prepared for evil, but we encourage good." -- Master Kahn
"And is good a great reward for trusting?" -- Young Caine
"In striving for an ideal, we do not seek rewards. Yet trust does sometimes bring with it a great reward, even greater than good." -- Master Kahn
"What is greater than good?" -- Young Caine
"Love." -- Master Kahn
"And what is love?" -- Young Caine
"Love is harmony, even in discord." -- Master Kahn

Answer 7

See your doctor first off for a physical. Then for a life goal, try seeing a counselor at school for some guidance.

Answer 8

You WILL fail in life unless you change your attitude and find a constructive way to deal with anger. If you don't do that, you will ruin any chance at happiness and fullfillment in life.

Answer 9

Go to college and do an international program.