So today i found out my bf is going to join a gym by his job and I was not happy and started thinking crazy like he is gonna find a another grl that is hotter and maybe start wanting to be with one of them I know I have to become more confident because i hate thinking this way I know its not right I know guys hate that in a girl. I am a pretty girl its not like im ugly so why do i feel this way?? Well for starters I know one thing a women is not supposed to depond on a man to be more confident but in my relationship I barely get complimented and shown affection and I tell my bf of over 3 yrs that he should but he says its just not him or just "ok" and nothing a part of me thinks he doesnt love me like I love him before we started dating I was extremely confident had a great body and just let it all go so I recently joined a gym by my job so why am I soo mad and jealous?? I really need your opinions on this just please dont leave any mean comments I know I have probs dat im tryng to fix
2007-02-09 07:54:53 · 10 answers · asked by bkgrl718 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
relax. nobody really find their true loves at gyms or bars anyway.
if the show's over then the show's over
move on
2007-02-09 07:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I feel insecure too. I don't have a boyfriend, but I've severely liked a guy for over four years. So I know how you feel.
The thing that always works for me is to boost me up instead of thinking bad thoughts about others. If some girl he meets at the gym has good abs, don't start trashing her about her butt. Say something nice about yourself.
When I straighten my hair, wear a new outfit, or get a great grade on a test, I get even more confident. If it works for you, make a list. But I find it's more effective to do whatever you think makes you feel best about yourself. If you think you are fat, join a gym program. If you think you aren't pretty, do something different with your hair, or buy a new lip gloss. There are also other ways to make yourself feel more important without nessacarily trying to fix the negative things. Try something new. Take classes at an art league, or learn to play an instrument. Once you find sometihng you are good at, you'll feel great. I get all the confidence I need every time I go horsebackriding.
So try some of those ideas, and if you still are worried about your boyfriend, start thinking about whether it's really worth your time trying to impress him. If you've talked to him about this before, and he still hasn't changed, talk to him again. Remember though, you can only give a guy so many chances.
If you were happier with yourself before you were in this relationship, than seomthing is wrong. A guy is suspossed to make a girl feel better about herself, not think that she isn't good enough. Even if you love him as much as you say you do, your self-confidence is still important.
So look in the mirror, and remember that theres only one you...
AND SHE ROCKS!
2007-02-09 08:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance doesn't compliment me or show me affection nearly as much as I do him. He's just that way. I take most of it with a grain of salt, but occasionally I will fish for my compliments. And when I get them I make a big deal out of thanking him and give him a compliment back. He tells me that he takes notice to how I look and thinks I look great but somewhere between thinking it and saying it it gets lost. He is really great to me in general so I cannot fault him for not complimenting me enough. To answer your question about the gym membership- Most guys go to the gym to strictly work out. So girls are there, bfd. He works with girls too doesn't he? Do you worry about him going there? Really if you cannot trust him to go to the gym and work out then you can't trust him at all. Maybe you should join the gym too. Even if you can't go together at times, you can still get a feel for the environment he's in, meet the people who work there, and make them spy for when you aren't there. But if you are truly happy in your relationship, him joining the gym to look good for himself and you, should only help, not hurt.
2007-02-09 08:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by principessajordan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, instead of going to the gym be your job, why dont ya'll go to the gym together. And as far as your confidence goes, just compliment yourself everyday, and dress up so that you FEEL that you look good. and take a little time for just you, where you give yourself a pedi or mani or take a long, hot bubble bath, or something of that sort. hoped this helps some.
2007-02-09 08:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly how you feel and it is normal to be a little jealous about your bf being at a gym with other girls that are working out. You just have to assure yourself that you are a beautiful person and he is lucky to have you. You keep going to the gym and get you a hot body and let him worry about you for a change, You deserve it. Good Luck!
2007-02-09 08:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by kris10 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't rely on others to make you feel better about yourself. I would recommend you get yourself a Paul Mckenna self hypnosis tape on self confidence. His stuff is good and well worth the money. Don't expect love just because you fancy a bloke. You need to sort yourself out. If your guy is not loving you or showing you respect then dump him. No point in keeping it going if it's not going to work.
2007-02-09 08:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by coffee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealous is fear, fear is the emotions of the kidneys....exercise, drink more water and take a vitamin B-Stress Tab....and eat those vegetables, lots and lots of salads. Anger is the emotion of the liver, cut back on the sugars, fats and oils...and take a muliple vitamin.
Work out at the same gym...he may be feeling the same as you.
2007-02-09 08:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No reason to be insecure. You feel you have a great body and that shows a lot of confidence. I am sure that you just need to get hit on by a couple of guys to prove that you are still fine....Hey Babe...what do you say we grab a coffee and get to know easch other?
2007-02-09 08:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not go to the gym with him?
Sounds like it would do you some good also.. ya know?
2007-02-09 07:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by Prof. Timpo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋