Well i ment this girl in real life when she was visting my friend. She lives in a different state so after she left we started talking over the internet and we became really close. She told me she like me over the internet and we saw each other like 3 other time after we ment. Then when she was down here one time she ment this other guy and she started going out with him and we stop talking. But now she moved here and she broke up with that guy she was going out with but we still don't talk that much. Im pretty sure she doen't like me anymore cause she beautiful and popular and well im ugly and not popular. We haven't talk for like 6 months and i still really like her and don't know what to do. I know this doesn't make sense but please give me advice i just really don't know what to do and im pretty sure she likes this other guy
2007-02-09 07:50:27 · 9 answers · asked by a guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do talk to her on aim once in a while but i have to start the converstaion and im a really shy guy and i just don't wnat to ask her out or anything like that because i think it would be weird when ever we see each other in school and im scared of rejection
2007-02-09 07:51:16 · update #1
Well: you have to get over being afraid, because nothing helps if you don't try.
Just brace yourself for reality that 90% of the time it will be "no" and you wont be surprised or hurt.
Why don't you plan a group function , trip to baseball game, pool party, movie night .... whatever. Invite several friends and include her in the invitation list. Keep it small maybe 5-10 people so you have chance to talk.
Try this a couple times. If she keeps declining you will know she does not want to hang out and takes the pressure off of asking for a "date".
You know..... Hey a group of us is going to see XXXX movie, and then have burgers after, would you like to come along?
Or make actual invitations to some kind of outing and give her one.
Oh and the secret is "its not about looks" its about confidence and personality.
When I saw my BF, I did not think "oh he is hot....." but he was persistently charming to me. I loaned him a video and he kept telling me he did not want to watch it alone, for weeks..... until I finally agreed to watch it with him :b
2007-02-09 07:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strange what u say. how come u say ur ugly and not popular and say that she used to talk to u before. well if she's beautiful and popular and she talked to u then she likes u as a friend. She just ws admiring the second guy for a while thought he liked her and so she went out with him and when she discovered the opposite she left him . If she's still talking to u then everything's normal. Leave it to chance don't impose urself on her.
keep talking to her and being friends and try to hint at it or else leave her to lead the situation .
good luck
sara
2007-02-09 15:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by drfarfour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, take your computer and throught it down a flight of stairs. It is my opinion that online relationships are bullcrap. Get out there and meet many girls, this will help you get your mind off this oneother girl, or the cyber version of her you think likes you. I'm not trying to be mean. Also, it sounds like she's out of your league, date girls that are in the same league as you or lower. That way, if it doesn't work out, it's not so bad, see what I mean. In the mean time, work on the confidence thing, It's all in your head that your ugly and unpopular. later
2007-02-09 15:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. lumberjack 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one thing is that she's not the only girl in the world. there are many. first thing though is that you have to start loving yourself, that's the first thing. you have to start loving yourself. you have to love yourself for others to love you. if you don't like your appearance, well, what is that you don't like? Is there a way to change it? I'm thinking that the more time you spend around people, the more confident you get becasue you get experience and practice of what it's like to communicate, observe sertain situations and the like. see what i mean?
2007-02-09 15:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Diaci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she thinks that you dont want to talk to her anymore either. Have a little more confidence in yourself, what if she doesn't know you're that shy?
Or forget about her, find a nice shy girl that appreciates you.
2007-02-09 15:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus Christ Track Starrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt like you man.. sorry...
When you were far away she saw you as something different and special.. but now she has a ton of guys that are new to her and shes doing her thing here.
Sorry bro
2007-02-09 15:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by Prof. Timpo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great guy...you don't need her. That's what I think anyway...good luck
2007-02-09 15:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by molgirl7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to ask in order to find out. so what if she says no its not going to kill you.
2007-02-09 15:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by back2jae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's out of your league, buster
2007-02-09 15:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by jake j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋