my gf has just turned 30 and says she has nothing to sho for it. i do want kids with her. how do u know if u r ready? i am 28
2007-02-09 07:38:52 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When you realize life is not just about you and you are willing to give up all selfishness and totally give your all, (time, money, love) to a small helpless person. It really, really changes your whole life if you do it right. Millions of people have kids, but there's more to it than just having the child. If you have a child, realize it will totally change your life. There will be many, many good times and many, many bad times. But, the good will outweigh the bad. Just be prepared for a big life change. Make sure you are ready to give of yourself in a big way!
2007-02-09 07:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a toddler and I ask this all the time. Look, you won't find a perfect time or ever have all the money etc you need. Ask yourself if your life is stable (good job/income, commited to your partner, ready for the changes a child will bring to your socail life) and then ask if you want to have another person to take care of. And yes-loads of work, more than you can guess till you have one-but the perks are awsome. A little person who loves you! Someone to see grow from a tiny helpless being to a walking talking independent spirit! And a love you can't imagine for another being. It's awsome. But hey, I still miss going out with my friends-and I was 31 when I had my son!!!
2007-02-09 15:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by VAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are the result of mutual understanding & responsibilities of couples. Age is a factor based on statistics.. for example... .people gets more mature with their age.. & usually its good to have kids after 25 which means that most people are mature enough by then to handle the responsibility of raising a child. So, if ur gf shows no interest & she is not ready then u should not have kids even if u r ready.. because mother care for the first 1/2 year is essential for the babies.
2007-02-09 15:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by Galactic_Explorer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are proving to be more and more independant as the years progress. We know we have a time line for when it will become increasingly difficult to have children. She may want a child soon. If you want kids, and you want her as the mother of your children, then sit down and discuss it with her! And, its the year 2007, unless you two believe that you should be married before bringing kids in this world, let that be a later issue. Otherwise, there are plenty people out there who start a family LONG before actually getting married. But talk to her, and make sure both of you are moving in the same direction.
2007-02-09 15:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be ready to have children when your youngest leaves home !
Seriously, sounds like your at an age when lots of people have kids.
If you are going to give parenting your best shot why don't you get married. It has nothing to do with being old fashioned. There are so many reasons to be a married parent.
Can't understand why so many people think about having kids when they don't feel ready to get married.
2007-02-09 15:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Yeti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r never ready for children
because children are so unpredictable
however first thing is get married
maybe wait 1 or 2 years after the marriage
and then start having kids
don't wait too long because your gf's time clock is ticking
because for the first child if she has it after 35 years old
its risky for both mom and baby
2007-02-09 15:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think anyone is ever ready lol, if you know you want kids with her then just do it, take the plunge now, honestly, there is never a right or wrong time and it will be the best thing you ever did!!
2007-02-09 15:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by Airyfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think you are ever ready for them. I kind of planned my two, didn't sit down and decide this week/next month etc, decided to let fate take its course.
Age might have a contributing factor for your girlfriend, it's a "girl thing!". I had first when I was 28 and second when I was 32, so don't let her panic.....
2007-02-09 15:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by lynn a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i dont think anyone can ever really say, i am completely ready to have kids... it just sort of happens and most people deal with it--- of course it is always a blessing. i think you know on some sort of level wether or not you could handle it-- but i do believe that you are only given things when you are ready for them... good luck!
2007-02-09 15:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by bourke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will no when you want kids your heart will tell you if its what you want be carefull how much longer to wait as the older u get the harder it is to have a child and have more problems in pregnancy and more likly to have a baby thats not healthy but dont worry to much on that there are lots of people that do have no problems and a healthy babys its just a small risk
2007-02-10 03:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋