got dumped today im sad... comfort me please?

Question

it all started this morning at 8 a.m when my [X-boyfriend] of 2&1/2 yrs called.. first he asked what i was doing.. then he started questioning my myspace [yes i know lame] so he asked for my p-word and e-mail.. i gave it to him and then he told me to get rid of it so i did.. he called back asking me y i had deleted my pg [he told me to delete it] and he said do you have something to hide

anyways yesterday like at 6 p.m. he told me he was going to tell me something later and hung up/... he called like at midnight and didnt tell me anything.. i think he was planning this do you

it just hurts me he just got a car 2 wks ago ive had the thought hes cheating.. ive always been there for him never cheated or even gone out im at his feet always y dump me this way

i swear if he would have told me i met someone i wouldnt b mad at him so y look 4 an excuse to make it seem its my fault what sux is that i love this guy so much theres nothing i wouldnt do 4 him and it hurts {im 20 hes 21}

Answer 1

Fuhgettabouthim! If he doesn't have the decency to talk to you after 2 1/2 years, then he's not worth it.

I know it's hard, but it'll get easier, I promise.

Answer 2

It sounds like you could do a lot better than this guy you were with. I am not sure if he planned the situation your speaking of or not but it's obvious that he isn't the one for you. I mean beyond that it sounds like this guy is very immature not to mention controlling. He should of never asked you for your myspace email address and password. That was none of his concern. And then him dumping you thinking you have nothing to hide when all you were doing was what he wanted tells me that he is just playing games and that you could find a much more deserving guy than him. Also he is young and now that he just got a car of his own who knows where he is going or better yet who is is going to see behind your back. I know it sucks when you love someone and they end up disappointing you but it's best to know the truth now. Instead of finding this out after marrying him or something serious like that. My ex acted in a similar fashion when he got his first car and believe me you can always find a better guy who will respect you. Take some time out and let yourself heal. I know it hurts now but one day you will look back on this and realize what a jerk he was being. Be true to yourself and take care. Good luck!

Answer 3

what happened to you is one of the worst things that can happen in a relationship. The guy you were describing has some issues. He's a moron, a jerk, a very bad person, whichever you want to choose. I'm sorry about that, and I am feeling a bit bad right now, trying to concentrate on my life, but i guess you just have to be strong. Don't ever pick up the phone again if he calls, honestly, however hard that might be, and please don't call him yourself. You're worth more, got that??? Try to sleep, listen to music, eat some, go for a walk, talk to a friend or anyone who would listen, write in a journal, try watching a movie, if possible. Try not to cry, please.

Answer 4

It does appear as if he had planned this. He probably tried to break up but did not find the nerve to do it being that as you said you have never given him reason. So he used this my space excuse. I agree, it is a rotten thing to do. My feeling is that you love him so much and he knows it and is sure of it. It is always not good for a girl to make herself so vulnerable to a man. What makes a man stay is usually the fear of losing you, he has no fear of losing you because you have made him sure of you. When they are young, experiencing new things (like a new car), there is temptation to stray. I know he will call you and try to get back with you and he knows you will take him back. You have to set the rules from the beginning or he will always know that he can play this game with you. So stop crying and learn to love yourself enough to not put up with this. He needs to learn to respect you again and to not be so sure of you. Hope you feel better!

Answer 5

Well, no matter what the reason for it happening you have to believe me when I say it is probably for the best. It hurts now but you are still young and now that he is out of the picture you could meet someone much better who will treat you the way you deserve. I've been there - and could be again. I'm twice your age - divorced twice. There is always another guy that will enter your life when one departs. Just take it slow and take the time to get over him and then move on.

Answer 6

get her ideas off it for now the final element all of us needs to think of roughly after being dumped is the dumper and the truly adventure of being dumped. Then after little time frequently the subsequent day or later that evening confront her approximately what happened and re-assure her yet maximum heavily listening attempt to no longer take facets purely be there for her to no longer down communicate her ex simply by fact which could make her experience worse for no longer seeing the undesirable characteristics you of course observed in her ex. purely be a listener

Answer 7

He probably doesn't have a really good excuse, and would rather you feel like it is your fault to minimize any guilt he is feeling. He know there probably isn't a reason, he just wants out. Not that it is your fault, but don't put yourself at any guys feet. If the guy doesn't treat you with the same respect you give him, you probably don't want to be with them anyway. Don't be a doormat for anyone. I know you are sad, but don't worry, there is someone much better out there for you.

Answer 8

I don't understand his need to control you before he dumped you "get rid of your myspace" etc... Is he wanting to move on and wants you to pine away after him.

Best thing you can do is pick yourself up, (AFTER you throw yourself a little pity party, you deserve one, I generally allow myself 24-48 hours to mope, cry, yell or whatever I feel I need to do without giving excuses) and then move on without him. Don't call, don't text, don't email and leave him in the dirt. One day he'll wake up and wonder "who is this independant woman I left?, I might want to get to know her" hopefully by this time you've found someone who is worthy of your love.

Recipe for a good pity party: (at least this is what I would do)
Have a girls night slumber party
Rent chick flicks that make me cry
Don't allow my girlfriends to bash him, only makes me feel worse, but I'm allowed to
Favorite snack foods
Sometimes this ends up at a club dancing the night away with random strange men (although this is generally day two of the pity party, the one where I want to feel better about myself)

Answer 9

okay I'm only 19 but I've had my share of guys whom I thought I loved................. and yea it's ganna hurt what you need to do is find somthing to keep your mind off of him like jog or go for a walk go and see a movie [yes by your self] take up kick boxing thats what i did when my first bf of 4 & a 1/2 years dumped me for my best friend, and it's not like he's the last guy on earth my god woman theres millions of guys out there, so throw on a short skirt and go do something just keep your mind off of him........... and working out like jogging and kick boxing builds muscle he'll be sorry he dumped you after a few months of that but NO MATTER WHAT DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM!!!!!!! well hope i helped
all wounds heal over time
still dreaming in idaho
stacy

Answer 10

Usually the person doing all the blaming of cheating is the one cheating so yes he probably was. But if he was you don't need this guy anyways cheaters are losers and losers are shallow pieces of scum. He had no reason not to trust you right? You should move on and go date other guys make him jealous.