My dad is a drunk man and i havent seen him in abt 5 or 6 monthes and he is making me go this weekend but i have a birthday party 4 my friend sat night i want to go to the party but not with my dad.I HATE my dad...should i go to my friends house b4 he picks me up that way im not home when he picks up my sister or should i stay home and tell him i dont want to go with him then he will yell at me possibly hit me or just go wit him and get it over wit???? This has happened b4 and he called the cops...PLZ help me!!!!!!!!♥
2007-02-09 07:24:56 · 17 answers · asked by pancake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do the adult thing..call your dad and explain u have all ready been committed to being at the party..Maybe he can come and pick u and ur sister up a bit late that evening..
2007-02-09 07:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by ibsawdust 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who drink are not all violent. You say he has done this before and called the cops on you?
He has visitation rights? Is this why he called the cops? Your father is a drug addict. The drug is alcohol and he needs help. Many people turn there backs on family members like this. I even tried and my father was violent. But at the end I came home to care for him. He was in horrible health due to this drug and he died a very sad man. He did apologies for all the bad he did. He new alcohol was bad but he was a drug addict. Same as your father.
Some day you might be in a sorry state and need your parents, kids, families help. Would you like them to turn there backs on you?
This will hurt your father very badly if you do not go, but I do understand why you do not want to be around him. Take care keep yourself safe. You really need to tell your father how you feel, in a safe manor. He may not be to far gone on this drug to realize what you are saying, then again he might be to far gone.
Good luck!
2007-02-09 07:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The entire question is now irrelevant. You just say one key sentence “he will yell at me possibly hit me”.
You must seek help immediately. You can try with your family, or friends, or both. Otherwise, contact your local government, or even make the right call already and contact the Police.
Hitting you, and especially for something that stupid, is unacceptable, and punishable by law here in the US (and in most civilized countries).
For now, just go before he gets to your house, as it seems you are afraid to confront him. But make sure your friends are going to be around when you come back as he might be there waiting for you.
If you don’t want to see him, your best approach is to get help, and confront him together even with your friends or family to avoid any problem. Explain to him you don’t want to see him anymore, or not for now, and that he is not welcome to your house or your life. If he refuses and keeps on contacting you, then you should put a restraining order against him.
Good luck.
2007-02-09 07:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look, girly...u need to tell him u do NOT want to go with him. if hes a drunk, u could end up hurt n a wreck. if hes violent, he could hit you. either way, the cops will be called. but better if he hits you than to die in a wreck because hes a drunken b@$t@rd. you should let the cops know if he hits you. you sound old enough to know whether hes a good person or not. and no matter what state youre in, at a certain age, you have the RIGHT to refuse visits. you do NOT have to go with him. you need to be strong enough to wait at your house until he comes, and tell him (calmly and maturely) that you dont want to go with him. and if he asks why, then tell him the truth. You can give him the easy truth (you have a bday party youve planned on going to) or you can give him the hard truth (dad, youre drunk and mean, and you scare me. fix it, or i wont ever go with you.) or both (dad, you need help with your drinking problem, and i refuse to go with you until its fixed. and i have a bday party tonight, so we'll talk later). only you kno how he will react, but you still need to be honest with him, and NOT HIDE. that will only cause more problems.
keep your head up girl, u can do it. i wish u luck.
2007-02-09 07:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
have him call the cops and in front of the police tell your dad that you dont want to be apart of his life anymore, that his alcoholism is not something that you wish to be apart of and if he cared then he would come around more then he does, and his dependency on alcohol would stop. if you have to, while the police officer is there, ask about how to get a restraining order if your worried about him hurting you. dont feel you have to do something you dont want to do just because he is your dad, he may be your dad but hes not your parent. what about your mother? can she help in any way?
2007-02-09 07:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by bacardi b 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who do you live with can you not explain to them that you don't want to go with him as he makes you feel uncomfortable ad you dont like him as he get drunk. If you just would rather go to your friends party instead then its probably unfair to your dad and you should go with him and maybe whilst you are there you could try talking to him about his drinking and any other problems you have with him.
2007-02-09 07:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by kazz06 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yep...I'm a Dad and I say its not your job to be catering to a drunk....dont tell him where your going and have a great time there. Let him call the cops...hopefully they have better things to do too. take care
2007-02-09 07:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by sea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk about this to your mother maybe? or whoever looks after you. If your dad really frightens you or harms you in any way you must tell somebody, a teacher or another adult you trust. Good luck.
2007-02-09 07:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is your mom in the picture or another responsible adult? Please let them know your feelings. You should not go with him if he will be driving drunk- he can call the cops all he wants and get himself in trouble.
2007-02-09 07:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the friends house!! Depending on how old you are there is no law that can force you to visit him.
2007-02-09 07:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋