since a young age i lived with my mother, she ended up moving in with her new man, and i ended up going to live with my dad. im a sinlge child, and me and my mom are not as close.
i worry about him all the time. thinking the worst may happen even when hes at work, or out on the weekends. we have never had the daughter father relationship where i tell him i love him, or have a hug just simply because i need one.
iv recently moved from home, and i miss having him around. i feel guilty that iv left him at home (with his wife and his daughter). im close to moving back home just to hear him screaming at me for leaving the door open, or just to hear him singing!!
as you never now whats going to happen around the corner, im so scared of loosing him.
is this normal? surely im wasting time worrying about him now, and i should just make the most of him actually being around?
2007-02-09 07:12:43 · 13 answers · asked by geminially 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He's a very lucky dad to have such a loving daughter, cant think of anything wrong with the feelings you have... my daughter hasn't spoken to me for 5 years and it breaks my heart...
2007-02-09 07:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by Rod Stewart 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think this is normal. You have a strong bond and that is a good thing. You just need to try not to get anxious and let it hold you back from becoming independent and bonding with other people. Try to have a regular time for seeing him and put energy in to these visits and not at other times. You can always call him if you are worried.
Try and focus on other things when he's not around. When you are together, tell him you love him, maybe you just need to express yourself more. It's very special to have a bond with your dad, I felt i had a strong bond when i was young, now my dad is unwell with Parkinsons disease, and i'm always grateful for the closeness we shared.
2007-02-09 07:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Honey,
I have a good idea just how you are feeling, I am a very happily Married man with 9 daughters and 2 sons, (twins)
I am 62 years old, and all my daughters worry over me, I really do love them all, as a Daddy is expected to love his little girls, but they are all away all over the world now as are my boys, and I will get calls from them all on a fairly regular basis, they all want to know how we are doing, although they ask me HOW I AM DOING, and expect their mom to be doin ok anyway, because she is just Mom, and she is always ok. after 42 years wearing my wedding band, she must be ok or crazy in love with me.
I would be a little alarmed, if my girls failed to contact me because I know they care for me, I can tell in all the greetings cards I get at Birthday time, Christmas time, St Patricks day, and YES even St Valentines day, so I am well assured that my Girls are all so much aware that I am still here and always ready to help, Jeepers, they even got me all fixed up with this computer and even a mobile telephone, which I carry with me wherever I am going, but they all know, not to ring me after 9 pm,( My wife and I retire early now,) just so they can stay in touch, I must have been a wonderful Daddy to them Huh? I am retired from my work as a working life long heavy truck Driver, and my years of hard and heavy work, helped my wife and I to raise them all in a good family home. I couldn't have done any of this without the love of my wonderful wife.
Stay in contact with your Daddy, for he will love you for ever, no matter what! go visit him as often as you feel you need to, and reassure yourself that your Daddy is fit and well, he will love you even more for that too, the only other thing I could tell you is get him on a cam corder now, and for all the years you have him talking to you now, you will have all of that for later when the misfortune of you not having him around in your later life. Well Honey, I wish you both a very happy and loving LONG LIFE -TIME, together and much enjoyment too, Bye...... Tony M
2007-02-09 07:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal for you to worry about your parents and thinking that they are not going to be around always. If you want to have a good relationship with your dad, sit him down and ask him if he will talk to you alone. Tell him exactly how you feel and tell him your fears. Your dad will be overjoyed that you are talking to him as girls are emotional guys are physical. for example moms will give you a hug, dads will give you a gift. Dads want to love you too they are just shy about how to show it, hug him more and ask him if he will hug you more. Things will work out for you if just be honest, tell him you love him and are worried about him tell him you would enjoy a hug once in a while because you love him, he will be happy that you told him what will make you closer. Take care Heather
2007-02-09 07:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Almost all little girls love thier Daddys. I know how you feel. My parents split up then remarried each other twice ! So when I was with my Dad I always worried I'd loose him again. We really made a heart to heart connection in the past 5 years. We spent may all night sessions sharing our deepest feelings and secrets. He died in 2005 and I feel that he's still with me and always will be. Why not disscuss your abandonment fears with him openly ?It may open a wonderful door to an understanding, PEACE.
2007-02-09 07:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Clover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds to me like that with the loss of the stability of your biological parents marriage, you only have one of two to rely on...and so if the one you treasure is lost...then I guess thats why you are so scared.
Don't worry. I worry about my dad all the time and he's hardly ever around...i can't talk to him like i can to my mum, like what happened at school or what my views on the everyday world are, but i do love him. And part of me is going to hate me for the rest of my life if i don't make more of an effort. But, hey we're both guys so...
Just treasure the time you have with him and maybe let him know that this is how you feel.
Good luck.
2007-02-09 07:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww dnt worry. Its totally normal. I just recently moved out from living with my Dad and I feel exactly the same way you do.
I love my Dad to pieces, and yet we never had that father-daughter feeling either.
You'll get used to it, don't worry. And you'll find that he spends a lot more time worrying about you. xx
2007-02-09 09:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by MrsMatsuyama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im closer to my dad than my mum but i dont worry about him like that i see him nearly eer day and he only lives round the corner so maybe thats why, maybe your just feeling a little anxious because yor worried that your growing up and moving on with your and you havent told your dad that you love him and he means alot to you, why not go out just the two of yoou and have that chat you have never had im sure you will feel reassured that hes okay its not like hes all alone.
2007-02-09 07:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by kazz06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is normal. I often worry about my mother and father or my son getting in accident. Daughters have a special conection with their fathers. It's natural, and sweet. You should tell your father how much you love him, maybe that's why you have these worries. You fear you may lose him before you get to tell him how much you truly love him. Even if it is uncomfortable bringing it up, it's worth it. Start with telling him you love him.
2007-02-09 07:25:05 · answer #9 · answered by Autumn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its ok i love my dad so much I think the same way with my dad its ok the way it sounds is ur daddys little girl
2007-02-09 07:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by ASHLEY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋