Ok, I went out on a date with this girl, I took her to medieval times, then to a bar with a live band, dedicated a song to her, wrote a poem and gave her roses. I dont know if she likes me, but she goes to school and works, she says she's not too focused in finding a boyfriend cause of school and work, but she still wants to go out with me on dates. what does this mean? can anyone tell me?
2007-02-09 07:03:55 · 24 answers · asked by deaftonez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you everyone I really appreciate it. all of you are right, maybe I did too much although she did like the roses, she told me she loved them, I think I should not be clingy and just give her free time, although after I dropped her off, she told me to call her in the morning to wake her up. at 6am I did call her to wake her up. But why do girls do that? what is the deal with that?
2007-02-09 08:25:05 · update #1
to mea it sounds like she is really interseted in you its just that she has a lot on her plate rite now . she is trying to sort everything out and get everything on track and she has to get really focused on life and when she finally does get everything figured out i bet you'll be the first person she calls just keep going out on dates show her a good time and make her see what she is missing out on it will work i promise just keep it up and be there for here when she needs you but also dont crowd her and call her every single secont either that tends to get annoying by the way give here her space but at the same time be there for her when she needs a friend
2007-02-09 07:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Cassie C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she has a busy life and isn't ready for a serious relationship yet. It also sounds as if she enjoys your company and wants to continue dating you. I think you were very sweet to do all those things for her, but I think you may have gone a little overboard, and it could have scared her a little bit, considering she probably doesn't have time for a deep relationship, and your actions were likely showing her that was what you are looking for. I think you should continue to date her, have a good time, but relax and be yourself. Don't try to do everything she wants to do, and don't tailor your dates strictly around her. Just go out, have a good time, relax, and let things happen as they do. When she can see that you are interested in her, but are not pressuring her for more than she is ready for, then if she feels the same way about you that you likely feel about her, she will let you know in her own way, when she is ready. Good luck!
2007-02-09 07:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What this means is that she loves you. She just doesn't want to get too serious. May be you said something that made her feel uncomterable. She might of been a little shy when she saw how much you did for her. ( flowers and the song and the poem ) This is not bad at all. Just be careful what you say. she has a lot on her mind between school and work. DON'T GO UP TO HER AND ASK HER WHAT IS WRONG RIGHT NOW. SHE WILL THINK THAT SOMEONE TOLD YOU SHE HATES YOU. You can ask her that, but just not now!
2007-02-09 07:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by My_Angel_In_Heaven 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably means what she said. There is a possibility that she had fun with you, and wants you to continue taking her out and spending money on her. Also, she could just not want to hurt your feelings. It sounds kind of like you may have overwhelmed her with the song and poem things. That stuff isn't for first dates. I would just stick with flowers on the second date. And, just ask her to be honest even if it will hurt your feelings. Ask her if she is attracted to you physically. If she sleeps with you, I would say she is being honest about being busy. But, if it were me, I would feel a little scared if my date was getting to serious out first time out. Be yourself though anyways. There are girls out there who are really into sweet gestures, but most of those girls have low self-esteem. Half the fun for the female is the chase. Good luck with your next date, and try not to be to clingy.
2007-02-09 07:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that was your first date and she told you she wasn't serious about a relationship right now, you may have done entirely too much! All a girl expects on the first date is dinner and a connection!! She may be thrown off that you were so forward in all that you did. You may even look a bit desperate. Sorry...Try backing off a bit, or at least when you go on dates try not to be so intense and give her so much!!
Good luck!!
2007-02-09 07:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she still wants to go on dates with you, she must like you a little or at least see potential. Don't push her - just keep dating. Make sure you're not ALWAYS paying though, she might be a gold-digger. Just play it by ear and see how it goes. Don't do too much too soon though...you might scare off the non-commital type.
Good luck.
2007-02-09 07:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Face 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think she really likes you but she's kind of in the stage where she might be confused on the fact she wants to go out with you and the fact she's not really ready for a commitment at the moment but she did go on a date with you so that means she's more on the going out with you line
hope you finally get her and you sound very sweet with all the stuff you said you did for her on that date any girl would be lucky to even have 1 date with you GOOD LUCK !!!!
2007-02-09 07:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just what she said no time for love just fun, that also means she is focused on more then guys so hang on to this one and respect her ethical ways she is a women that is on a mission to live her life right and to stay on track so be supportive if you like her Cherish the time you get with her and if it all works out she will be the kind of girl you will ask to marry you.. don't get upset at her she is different than your use to and its scaring you don't let this happen. she is focused on her future don't mess that up for her help her by honoring her wishes to stay guy free for the time being she'll let you know when she is ready for a guy...
2007-02-09 07:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is busy with school and work. At least she has apparently been honest with you about where her focus is at this point in her life. If you are looking for and exclusive relationship with someone who can focus loads of time on you then this is not the right time in her life for that but if you like her and are willing to enjoy her company while she aspires, then hang in there.
2007-02-09 07:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by NolaD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She just wants to hang out and date. You shouldn't expect that she will want to settle down. It is likely that she is more of a career woman, and she draws more pleasure from work than relationships :-)
2007-02-09 07:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋