2007-02-09 06:53:14 · 10 answers · asked by Tomas T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it's not up to you to fix the situatuion. be there for your father and your brother. u're all grieving right now, but time will make you closer.
2007-02-09 06:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by Snki55ed Princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, Tomas. Nothing's wrong. It's just that the current of life is ebb and flow, I mean that the fights between your father and brother is nothing serious and they will pass in peace. If you feel like being able to resolve these fights then do but beware your interference might complicate matters.
Or you might suggest councelling maybe that will solve things out. Or you might stay out of it and hope for the best.
Good Luck Tomas
urs
s.a.m.
2007-02-09 06:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by drfarfour 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a difficult problem, but it's an easy solution. Maintain your relationship with each of them independantly. Don't pick sides. Don't push them or try to resolve things.
Just don't let either of them bad-mouth the other to you. Just:
"Dad, I know Joe makes you mad, but that's something you need to talk to him about. I don't let him bad-mouth you in front of me, and I'd ask you not to bad-mouth him in front of me, either. He's my brother and I love him." And the same thing to your brother, the other way around.
If they're going to work things out, they will. If they won't, they won't. You have enough to deal with without getting stuck in the middle. You can't force people to make up and you can't solve other people's problems for them.
I'm sorry about your mom. You'll always miss her, but it won't always hurt so much.
2007-02-09 07:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're father dot hate you're brother its that you're mother died and he feel bad he feel angry because she not there to help him .Its hard for you're father to have two kids and take care them be his self just take to you're brother tell him how you feel .Maybe you talk to both about the died of you're mother it mate help.you're brother and you're father.
Good Luck?
2007-02-09 07:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell us why your father hates your brother maybe we can give you some advice on how to deal with it..
2007-02-09 06:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They r both finding it difficult to deal with the death of your mother i dont think they hate each other give it time it will improve.
2007-02-09 10:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that your my died. there is nothing you can do about your dad and brother . give it time they well work it out between them. it won,t help you getting up set when ever they fight just walk away go to your room sooner or latter they well stop. every one is just up set right now .
2007-02-09 07:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for your dad and brother.You can't heal their differences.I am sure sorry about your mom and I am sure that things will get better eventually.You need to give them time.
2007-02-09 07:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a case for professional help
2007-02-09 06:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WELL IF YOU VE TRIED EVERY THING YOU HAV THEN OFCOURSE THEN YOUR GNNA HAV TO LIVE WITH IT ARENT YA ?
2007-02-09 07:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by iluvicecream4eva 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋